You made a decision about your own career, as is your right to do. You are happy with that decision and if in the future, if you are not, you can change your mind and try something else. The people with the negative attitudes towards you are not on your side. They probably were not there for you when you were considering your choices.
Tell them to butt out if they have nothing constructive to say to you. All that matters is that you are happy with your decision. There will always be people that don’t want to see others improve themselves or increase their income. So stick to your guns and get your qualification. Then listen to them tell you how they supported you all along and how they knew you would do it. They will be two-faced about it.Their opinions are not important so don’t let them upset you. Just ignore them and let them stew in their own bitterness. I know it is not always that simple but really they are the ones with the problem.
Just keep in mind the rewards you will gain from completing the apprenticeship and where you could be in a years’ time. Leave the negative attitudes with the negative people. Let them built a bridge and get over themselves.
We believe in you, Belle
When is it going to stop? When will (if ever) women be able to go to work to support their families however they choose?
As a generalization, the same thing is applied to men though quite likely not to the same extent as women. The idea of a stay-at-home dad still makes many uneasy. There is a notion that men have to be the breadwinner in the family. There is a perceived effeminacy to certain jobs such as nurse, flight attendant, hair stylist etc., though that seems to be diminishing with time.
The point here is not "Men too! Look at us! Look at us!". The point is just that the problem seems to be a larger failing in social perspective or psychology: a need for others to fall into certain roles as we understand them, even in cases where we have no clear vested interest in the matter.
Subsequent generations will probably have their perspectives shift, and if they see women working in certain jobs, it will seem more normal from the start. For instance, jokes are still made about women doctors, and while I understand in my mind that it's a joke about doctor being a man's role, viscerally it doesn't really resonate. Even if there are less female doctors than male, there are enough female doctors that my entire life I've considered it perfectly normal and unremarkable.
It's just even if, on a case by case basis, things get better for women in the workplace -- which does generally seem to be the case --, I don't think the underlying issue will disappear. We'll just find new roles to thrust people into based on somewhat arbitrary factors.
Hi Belle, long time no see... Sorry to hear that this is still an issue in the western world and sorry again to hear that it is affecting you personally.
When is it going to stop?
I'd say in 3 or 4 generations. Each generation seems to be more progressive than the last.
Good luck in your new trade!
I'm in Australia and I suspect we have the same issue... I know our universities are strongly pushing for school girls to move into STEM fields. I'm not sure about trades... they are dominated by very blokey men.
You know we support you Belle. You can do absolutely anything, and all those people who say you can't should be ashamed of themselves. You only have one life to live, and it's far too short to spend it shying away from things you know are best for you because somebody else tried to scare you.
With the benefits you describe, taking this job seems like an obvious choice. And obviously you are strong enough. You are capable. You are doing the right thing.
Aw thanks. :D
One thing I should have said in that original post: You are strong, you are capable, you are doing the right thing, and you belong here.
You belong anywhere that you are. And nobody can convince you otherwise.
I love to hear you say this. Do what you want! Live your life to the measure of your own expectations. I swear you could be a feminist. Just sayin.