You made a decision about your own career, as is your right to do. You are happy with that decision and if in the future, if you are not, you can change your mind and try something else. The people with the negative attitudes towards you are not on your side. They probably were not there for you when you were considering your choices.
Tell them to butt out if they have nothing constructive to say to you. All that matters is that you are happy with your decision. There will always be people that don’t want to see others improve themselves or increase their income. So stick to your guns and get your qualification. Then listen to them tell you how they supported you all along and how they knew you would do it. They will be two-faced about it.Their opinions are not important so don’t let them upset you. Just ignore them and let them stew in their own bitterness. I know it is not always that simple but really they are the ones with the problem.
Just keep in mind the rewards you will gain from completing the apprenticeship and where you could be in a years’ time. Leave the negative attitudes with the negative people. Let them built a bridge and get over themselves.
We believe in you, Belle
Hi Belle, long time no see... Sorry to hear that this is still an issue in the western world and sorry again to hear that it is affecting you personally.
When is it going to stop?
I'd say in 3 or 4 generations. Each generation seems to be more progressive than the last.
Good luck in your new trade!
I'm in Australia and I suspect we have the same issue... I know our universities are strongly pushing for school girls to move into STEM fields. I'm not sure about trades... they are dominated by very blokey men.
You know we support you Belle. You can do absolutely anything, and all those people who say you can't should be ashamed of themselves. You only have one life to live, and it's far too short to spend it shying away from things you know are best for you because somebody else tried to scare you.
With the benefits you describe, taking this job seems like an obvious choice. And obviously you are strong enough. You are capable. You are doing the right thing.
Aw thanks. :D
One thing I should have said in that original post: You are strong, you are capable, you are doing the right thing, and you belong here.
You belong anywhere that you are. And nobody can convince you otherwise.
I love to hear you say this. Do what you want! Live your life to the measure of your own expectations. I swear you could be a feminist. Just sayin.
Haven't had a chance to read anything except your original post (before the quote). I have worked in healthcare my entire life and my colleagues and bosses have been predominately women. Much of the attitude you are experiencing is ignorance from lack of familiarity. Not many men out there have worked with strong women or encountered them in their jobs. I remember a single mom some decades ago who presented in my ER with a sick child. She was petite, cute as a button, and worked as a welder. I was buff and in my prime. I had no doubt that if any man less than twice my size had threatened her or her child she would have effortlessly ripped both of his arms out. I have since encountered numerous women who have been successfully employed in the trades. Many of them were real babes. All of them commanded respect.
Raw physical strength is not as important as endurance. I did some masonry with my father in HS. I was the pillsbury dough boy back then. You're not lifting walls, just concrete blocks. Once you get trained and are working in your groove, you'll probably outshine most of your beer-bellied co-workers. Which, of course, is the real reason you're getting so much push-back.
Out of town for a week, so my response is late. It was hot and dirty and really tore up my hands (wear gloves). Hard to separate the work experience from my boss (my father), but I do remember a certain sense of satisfaction and accomplishment as the walls slowly rose around us. By the end of the summer I went from dough-boy to ....well...not so doughy.
When is it going to stop? When will (if ever) women be able to go to work to support their families however they choose?
Well obviously, I don’t have any experience about work, working conditions and discrimination in companies; but because I study sociology, we often talk about misogyny as it is a very recurring, interesting and unfortunately a very actual topic. We’ve seen different theories about the origin and the mechanisms of sexism, but also the evolution of the situation since 1950. (I personally really enjoyed “Masculine Domination” by Pierre Bourdieu, even I we can easily criticize some parts of this book) In the first place, there’s “objective improvements” like the increasing proportion of women in politics(still not enough but let’s say it’s better than nothing), but also a change of mentalities, each generation being more tolerant to women than the last one. I think misogyny will slowly but inevitably disappear (well at least in “occidental” countries).
I now have to say that I really admire brave women like you; and that I wish you good luck with your research!
I love sociology too. I thought about going into it, but I didn't see myself as a researcher or social worker.
It will change as long as we push the boundaries. It won't happen tomorrow but your grandchildren and great-grandchildren will look back at our times with disbelief.