I think the situation is slowly improving on the domestic front. I see a lot more men pitching in around the house and with child care than I remember 30 years ago. I have also begun to see an increased occurrence of men taking the larger share of responsibility for their children during a relationship split. This doesn't make up for all the deadbeat dad's out there - but then men who are responsible shouldn't be expected to make up for those who aren't.
I know what you mean, though; we are far from true social equality. Change may be coming slowly, but I think that slow change may make for better results, rather than the social pendulum we see in other areas like how people with disabilities are treated.
My point here is not that people above a certain age are all bigots and below a certain age are all for equality -- far from it. My point is simply that it takes generations for perspective shifts to actually materialize. It takes generations for concepts of equality which were fought over in our life times to become ingrained into the fabric of society as if it was always there.
That links up with my point about social inertia. A couple people can change quickly, a couple hundred million can take a long, long time. The difference between changing the direction of a cabin cruiser vs. an aircraft carrier.
Actually, a kayak vs an aircraft carrier might better represent the scale.
What makes you so sure that, at least in the marriages that work, couples don't work out a solution that THEY feel is equal? That doesn't mean doing everything 50/50, it means working out trade-offs that work best for them and their children!
Here's a woman with her won brand of equalizer:
Angered by Obama's win, Holly Solomon runs over her spouse with their car, police say.
Those zany Republicans!