My take on this is that groups of men are not homogenous. Your relationships with each individual will depend on you, on your circumstance with them, and how much time/exposure you have to each individual.
I have a female friend that was the first woman to take the classes necessary to become a train engineer at a railroad company back in the 90's.
She said the training was full of sexist terminology, but she didn't take offense to it. She got along well with her co-workers and became a train engineer, one of the highest paid union positions in the U.S. at about $100 an hour back then. Certainly the high pay probably influenced her to play well with others, but the same would be true of a man in the same position. That would get it close to gender-neutral, which is how she felt about it at the time.
So wife, girlfriend, mistress, daughter--none of the above. All the respect due a co-worker if they want to keep making the big money themselves. More if you allow it, but that is up to you.
She said the training was full of sexist terminology, but she didn't take offense to it.
"Okay, now to make the train go faster, shovel coal into that thing that looks like a gaping cunt. To slow the train, pull back on that thing there that looks like a stiff pecker."
Sorry, I couldn't resist. :P
a train engineer, one of the highest paid union positions in the U.S. at about $100 an hour back then.
Holy smokes. I remember back in high school telling people I was going to become an engineer. One of them actually thought I meant train engineer! Maybe I should have taken the hint.
Personally, their gender has no bearing on how I view them. I view them according to their character