There is a very heavy cultural influence on gender behavior, including how one is expected to appear. Why won't you acknowledge this kind of peer pressure? Where do your ideas of "manly man" and "masculine" come from?
As for giggle tests, don't women pay a hell of a lot more for appearances than men?
Pope B., quit your single explanation (peer pressure) before you get into trouble for ignoring other causes.
I guess the other causes just don't bother me so much. Bring it on!
Now I'm thinking maybe I was just missing your humor. Sorry, if that's the case.
PB, your reply had me wondering if you're a masochist.
don't women pay a hell of a lot more for appearances than men?
Not necessarily. Though men will spend less on their own bodies, they often are pressured to buy fancy stuff to impress the ladies.
Well, I spend a lot of my time working only with women in my current fundraising job. Three quarters of the time I'm the only man among five or six women. Our male supervisor's shift overlaps mine by only about an hour.
My answer is that, no we don't, though it might depend upon the field. Working among female nurses, I'm told, can be rough for a male nurse. Apparently female nurses see nursing as a woman's job and would like to keep it that way. That might cause the male nurse to do some pondering.
U, your mention above about the uses of sexuality by women hit the bullseye, as would a mention about the uses of money by men -- assuming the required attractiveness or wealth.
Your remark about female nurses seeing nursing as a woman's job and wanting to keep it that way brought me a couple of chuckle-worthy memories:
1. The woman I was dating who, as mealtime neared, chased me from her kitchen.
2. The elderly woman at a public library film viewing who (when the projectionist, a woman, delayed the viewing when the projector balked) told a woman friend, "That's what she gets for doing a man's job!"
This is an interesting question. I'm studying to be a Medical Assistant. 90% or more of the students in my classes are female. So far, I just want to be myself and don't care much about making impressions. But I'm not trying to attract anyone, unless they're more interested in what's inside the package. (I do see a lot more vanity in others than myself, male and female, which is the far end of the I-must-appear-like-blah-blah spectrum.)