I have a story in today’s Sunday School which is relevant. It would appear that most adoption and fostering agencies in the US are faith based (even when State funded) and many are Catholic. So it is most likely that the people running these agencies are only looking to find parents that will have the same ethos as the agency does.
It is unlikely that the child (or young adult) actually gets a say in what is written about them regarding their likes and dislikes. They are written by religious staff who believe that placing them in a religious environment takes precedence over the financial background of the prospective parents or their capacity to love the child (which should always be top of the list?).
The problem is that these agencies equate a stable and loving family environment with how deep the faith of the parents are. They may genuinely believe this is always the best scenario for a child but of course this is often not the case. I don’t need to cite example but I have heard similar stories on this side of the pond.
An atheist couple I know – they were never religious - tried to adopt a child through a Catholic agency in Ireland. This agency works in Vietnam and the child was from there. Both parents are professional, one a school teacher, the other works in child related medicine. They have a large house (debt free) with an acre of garden space in a very upmarket area of town. Both have long term involvements with local charities. Ok you get the picture…they must have ticked all the boxes.
Yes, you guessed it. They were turned down because they could not show that they would raise the child as a Catholic. This is part of the obscenity of the Catholic Church and its brigade of fascist piety police. The fact that both parents were never Catholics and the two year old Vietnamese child definitely was not one did not matter.
That was a few years ago. Now they have 2 adopted children from an agency that is actually concerned about the welfare of children and not about new recruits for the Catholic herd. They all live in a Jesus free zone and will grow up to be excellent people just like any child you might adopt would. Just bear in mind what you may have to deal with.
Maybe you should look at it as critical thinking skills teaching vs anti-brain washing. Just a thought. By the way Belle, you're totally awesome :)
Critical Thinking video.
Yes, we must have all faculties up and running properly, lol....isn't that what coffee is for?
I'm sure that coffee helps with critical thinking skills! It must!!! It's a scientific fact! I saw it online, so it must be true. See how I can think critically? lol
I’m no parent, but if you care to hear my uninformed musings…I think part of the important point is that you don’t have to force a child to think a certain way or force them to be right. You’re not under the pressure of a fundamentalist Christian; they need to save their child from hell, but you don’t have to save your child from anti-hell.
I think respect and love are the important things here. Libby Anne talks about how she raises her kid as an atheist, but she doesn’t think she needs to ‘enforce’ atheism, and she wouldn’t be shocked and horrified if her girl became a Christian someday. Especially with an older child, you are entering into an agreement with a human being, not taking on an ‘art project’ you can shape into whatever form you choose. I think you should be able to keep a child, and be understanding of them, and expect understanding from them, without either of you ‘converting’ the other. You can get very far and overcome quite a bit with good communication and a little respect.
It all depends on the kid. Some kid who is really religious might not want to go live with an atheist.
That being said, I have no experience in this. I know I could hardly bear to think I was losing my imaginary friend when I started to leave my faith—but then, I didn’t have any real-life role models who are atheists either.