Thank you Karen and Tiffany! I chose early on not to spank my children and now, they collectively have a drawerfull of Master's Degrees, are all successful in their fields, bypassed the drugs and alcohol phase entirely, and have happy, stable marriages - oh, and for what it's worth, I was their best friend. Say what you like about "Hippy nonviolence" - if it ain't broke, don't fix it.
@Tiffany - RE: "how they walked to school barefoot, in the snow, uphill, for 36 miles"
You're a younger parent than I am, so let me give you a little advice - next time you use that, make sure and say it was uphill both ways! It's good to watch, as they get older, when it finally dawns on them how impossible that is, and you get the, "Hey --" look. That's when you know your little kid is growing up.
Parenting HAS to be fun, otherwise, what's the use?
Its not the lack of physical discipline which produces these out of control youngsters... its the lack of any discipline. That's my conclusion after observing moms and dads in the home, on the bus, about a hundred episodes of Super Nanny, etc.
I really enjoyed watching one mother and her out of control kid... her doing the whole, "if you do that again I'm going to swat your butt!" "I really mean it this time!" Of course your kid doesn't believe you after the 15th time of "really mean[ing] it." You're a liar and he knows it, lady.
Please be fair, there is big difference between pointless physical abuse of a child and making a point to your child. Yes, most people don't get it right and they end up abusing their children both physically and psychologically because they're complete idiots who are overwhelmed with raising a child - but it is definitely not the same thing.
By the way, does anyone remember this fine gentleman?
He posted follow up videos too, his method worked and he did make a point.
Now let's find those parents' phone numbers and tell them to smash their kids' fancy iphones and game consoles.
Exactly. I'm tired of people equating corporal punishment with beating the shit out of them. Anyone who actually beats up their kid belongs in jail. But a swat on the bottom, cuffing their ears. These things can establish who's in control and who must be obeyed.
Remember how stupid most adults are (they believe in religion, don't they?). Kids are far less subject to mere reason. Anyone who's argued with a teen knows exactly what I mean. ("So what if I was driving too close. Nothing happened, did it?"). You can't really reason with most grown-ups or they'd be atheists, too. You need to get your kid's attention.
Edison was cuffed on the ear - he was deaf in that ear for life.
The violent world of the past had better behaved kids. Perhaps men who hit women were ABUSED in a drastic way. To imply it's because they got a swat from their dad because they sassed a teacher doesn't even pass the giggle test.
The violent world of today is populated primarily by boys who grew up absent much parental authority.
RE: "The violent world of the past had better behaved kids."
If they were "better behaved," and I have no evidence that they were, it was out of fear, rather than any intrinsic understanding that there was an acceptable, and an unacceptable way of behaving, and being clear as to why unacceptable behavior was considered so,.
This man's an idiot, and has no business raising kids.
(This post was supposed to fall below the video - I didn't mean you Unseen, the jury's still out on that.)
How do you explain, then, that the downward plunge in children's behavior pretty much coincides with your hippy-dippy "hit the kid, produce a criminal" theory of discipline?
You can't build a theory on anecdotal evidence. Leave the anecdotes aside and consider the correlation between increasing teen misbehavior and violence with the throttling of corporal punishment.