it's obvious the bible is bedtime stories to explain what people didn't understand.

so, when your pet dies, what do you tell your child when s/he asks "where does fluffy go when he dies?"

just curious, cause I've sometimes wondered what I would tell my kids (if I have any)

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I think most people start to talk about where "fluffy goes when he dies" before the kids even ask. When I was growing up in a christian home my dad told me that pets didn't have souls and so they didn't go anywhere. They just died. I remeber it bothered me for a short time and then I got over it.

 

For my kids I asked them what they thought and then asked them why they believed it. Then I told them that no one had died and come back to tell us what had happened. - This really upset my baptist wife though.     

I don't want them to be atheist's because I told them it was right. I want them to come to the conclusions on their own. I simply try to guide their thinking toward the logical conclusion.

I remember hearing those same words when I was 6. My brother and I had done something "bad" and spanking us was not going to cover it. For some reason my older brother, 19, and sisters boyfriend, 22, came up with a new form of punishment. Shot gun in hand, and my dog Bear on a leash. They took us to a back area on our property where they had dug a giant hole.

 

Once there they went over their master plan. They told us that they were going to shoot my dog and if we covered our eye or looked away then they wouldn't make it quick. That said,  the boyfriend shot him twice. Luckily, just before he fired the first shot I raised my arm to block my little brothers view. He was my responsibility and I couldn't let him see that. Just as the dog was my responsibility, I remember thinking I can't fail at both.

 

In the end they tossed him into the hole and made us bury him. As my sisters boyfriend handed me the shovel he said "Don't think he will go to heaven, animals don't have souls, and God doesn't watch over those who don't deserve it."

 

Sorry,  I probably shouldn't talk about my past. I don't exactly have any good or positive examples of anything to share... I'm like that parade ruin-er that always pops up. That's why I typically never say anything.

holy shit. :(

Wow, thats horrible.

No need to apologize. Past experiences for good are bad are an important part of us.

Thank you. Yeah, as much as I don't like having it apart of me, I like to think I'm a much better person for it. Surely a stronger person.
What a horrible experience, I'm shaking right now even thinking about it.  So sorry you ever had to go through it.
Thank you for your kind words. I understand about the shakes, I get them when ever I try talking about any of it. It's also one of the reasons I haven't posted my story here yet. Shaking and typing don't mix.

Oh my fucking God.  

 

Sometimes - Like Hitchens - I wished there was a Hell ... 

I do not & cannot have kids (this is deliberate I don't want to add to overpopulation issues) however I would explain the science behind the death of the animal as best I could.  I would explain the lifecycle of any living thing. 

 

There is no point in making stuff up.  Tell them the truth in a carefully worded sympathetic manner.

I have two children. One is eight and the other four. They both understand already that death is what you have when there is no life. My wife and I have been honest with them from day one. We have not perpetuated ideas of Santa Claus or an afterlife but we also don't try and interfere with their imaginations. My four year old has already reasoned on her own that Santa is no more real than the cartoon characters on tv. My son even tried to help pad her imagination by advocating for Santa to which she vehemently argued her position as best a four year old can.

The thing that makes me curious is why would a child formulate such a question as "where does fluffy go" if they have not already been influenced into belief in some version of an afterlife. My children have asked a number of difficult questions but rarely have those questions hinted at such concepts. I understand that children are influenced in how they understand the world by a number of sources other than parents. We have made it a point to explain these various opinions held by others to them on a level they can understand. They know that their cousins believe in Jesus and heaven and hell. We have even gone so far as to let my mother and sister take them to functions at church for the fun of it.

They don't disrespect other people for believing differently but at the same time we teach them to stand up for themselves and not be bullied by majority opinion as much as possible. I suppose my question is this: Do you think that the belief that someone or something alive "goes somewhere" after death follows naturally from "human nature" or do you think that the idea is the product of influences in a child's environment? I hope my question is not too far off topic.

well when I was a child I asked where my pets went when they died. I assumed it was something all kids asked

We buried Molley, in our back yard, we plan to go and buy some flowers to plant over her so that the kids have a place to go and morn her whenever they feel the need to.

My daughter woke me up the other day and said, mom what if the ants were to put molley back together again and bring her back side to us?

I chuckled and said that can't happen honey but you know you can always love molley  and remember her and the times you had with her. She was a good dog.

My daughter said yes momma I know.

When she asked me where she went I told her she was in the ground, and was finally out of pain. That it happens to all life, just as the seasons come and go so do we. She is 4 but she got it I think. She does have a beautiful imagination though and I allow her to do it. Instead of directing her thoughts to believe something I just give her the closest to the truth that I can, and allow her to mourn in her own way. Not that I am not supportive, we do support her, however she does need to learn the mourning process. This is something that we all go through when loosing a loved one, and something she will no doubt have to come to terms with to pass.  We keep a picture of the dog and the kids out, and just take the time to answer questions as truthfully as we can.

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