I will tell him/her the truth: That no one knows what life and death is, and no one knows what happens after that. It is a mystery, and actually makes me so curious sometimes I just can't wait to die - to find out!
I would tell my child the truth - I refuse to speak down to my child no matter what age they may be - I think if you treat a child as an adult from their birth - Their mindset will become accustomed to it.
IMO, parents that treat their children like children will have children that act like children.
I have no idea if I'm correct - But If a child asks me about 'fluffy' - I will tell them what death is. If my child asks me 'what were those strange sounds I heard from the bedroom?' I would tell them what love and sex is.
Every question a child asks is because of curiosity - To not answer to their curiosity is in a way not nurturing it - and to toss it aside with the thought 'they are too young to be told the truth' - I find you are still lying to them.
Don't lie to your children.
There is a good book that covers a lot of areas for children who are not going to be raised by the deluded.
It is called "Raising Freethinkers"
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Raising freethinkers : a practical guide for parenting beyond belief /
Dale McGowan . . . [et al.].
ISBN-13: 978-0-8144-1096-7 (pbk.)
ISBN-10: 0-8144-1096-0 (pbk.)
1. Religious education of children. 2. Parenting—Religious aspects
3. Free thought. I. Title.
Do you think it is written in a global perspective
I mean I m living in a society of Islam radicals what should I do?
Yes it is very global - it does not value any religion - without being too anti-religious. I will send you a pdf if you want. My email is on "my page".
Send me if you think that it is not violation of copyright things etc.
Thanks my dear.
I will be buying this book. Thank You :)
Be honest with your kids. Make sure they understand that you are doing your best to tell them the truth.
I've got 20, 17, and 10 year olds whom I've raised telling them there is no such thing as Santa Claus. At the same time I have raised them in church while considering myself a Christian. Now I have to let them know that I was wrong, I don't consider myself to be a Christian anymore and many of the things they've learned in church were wrong.
Fortunately, this still allows me to consider that I've always been honest with them. As best I could, I've told them the truth as I understood it. And they respect me for it.
Talk to your kids, constantly. Tell them that they might have to pretend to not understand things when they're with other adults, as a matter of courtesy, but as far as you're concerned, you will always be honest with them and you'll tell them everything you've learned.
To do anything less is negligent parenting.