it's obvious the bible is bedtime stories to explain what people didn't understand.

so, when your pet dies, what do you tell your child when s/he asks "where does fluffy go when he dies?"

just curious, cause I've sometimes wondered what I would tell my kids (if I have any)

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well yea. most religions say you go to hell when you die if you don't live correctly

me too have less fear of death

I think an atheist have less fear of death, m I right?

Not an easy topic to discuss with children, just like discussing sex.  Death is an uncomfortable topic for adults because we really don't know the 'answers' and because, we have hidden it away since the early twentieth century and the advent of embalming, funeral homes, etc.


My sons are 21 & 25 and were raised in the Catholic faith (both atheists before graduation), so we (kinda) believed in Heaven.  Now that I think about it, something that made a big impact on my disillusion with and eventual rejection of the Catholic church was the fact that they teach that animals don't have souls.  I've had pet dogs for almost 30 years and feel that animals deserve much more respect than they are given and as the old saying goes, my pets have treated me better than most people I know!  My dogs have given me unconditional love and loyalty.  Honestly, I got to the point where believing in the Rainbow Bridge ( was more comforting than the idea of seeing human relatives some day in Heaven.  Giving up the comforting thought that I would one day see my beloved pets was the most difficult part of rejecting religion!  


Above all, it is important to be honest with children, as others have stated.  It's okay for children to know adults don't have all the answers, but we have to try to explain as best we can.  If we don't know, we can tell children just that, but that we will look for the answer (if possible).

yap u r right.

People don't tell their children the truth because we don't know exactly what to say.  Death and sex are both topics we try to explain as quickly as possible and we try to sugar coat the little that

we say.  Another reason that you touched on is pain.  We don't want to cause our children pain, even if it is healthy and necessary to express our grief and pain.  As parents, we do all we can to shield them from pain.


That said, I agree with what you've said, 100%.

When my son was four, he woke me up in the middle of the night and asked, Dad, if God created Man, then who created God? I was like, go back to sleep!
A Christian would reply ... "Now my son, that is a silly question.  God doesn't need a creator - God has always been here.  Now Stop asking questions and go back to sleep !"

They do, don't they? Devin used to look out the front door when the garbage truck came by, and then he would say, "Nobody knows where the garbage man goes!"


Another time we were walking down the street, and we came across a dead dog in the road, lying next to a doughnut box with a few doughnuts strewn about. I said he must have been trying to eat the doughnuts and he got hit by a car. Dev said, "Dad, dead dogs don't eat doughnuts!" I've often thought that one sounds like the title of a book: Dead Dogs Don't Eat Doughnuts.  

I think they do!
I always wondered the same thing!

When I was a kid my father used to tell me that this God thing is a fake story created by few greedy ppl  but he also advise me do not tell this to any of your friend or relatives and I think he was right that in a theocratic state if a kid talk about this sort of thing this could be problematic for him|her and his family.

But I think in this kind of society kids should only be encourged to ask questions, as Jean said, so they were able to work out few thing themselves according to situation.

I will tell whole truth about religion to my children when they get mature What is your opinion on that

It is vital to always tell the truth, especially to your children. We know they will reach a stage in their development where they will begin to form their own ideas, beliefs, etc. Should one lie to their child and that child discover that you lied or was wrong, one will lose the child's trust, or the child make think one was is not too smart and stop asking you the questions. They'll find someone else to ask.


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