What part of Xtian Culture do you Miss?
Deconverts - What part of Christian culture do you miss the most? Is there a worship song or hymn you find yourself humming? Do you miss the after church coffees and potlucks? Do you get sentimental about an author or children's book?
I realize there is plenty to NOT miss, but for those who were in the faith longer than out, I'd be very happy to hear about the cultural soft-spots you have since leaving the faith.
I realize there is plenty to NOT miss, but for those who were in the faith longer than out, I'd be very happy to hear about the cultural soft-spots you have since leaving the faith.
Tags: culture, deconversion
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Permalink Reply by Dan Tres OMi on
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Honestly
I miss the good looking single women with the tight skirts...
a great pick me up for sunday mornings when I didn't have time to make coffee.
that's it.
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Permalink Reply by Christine Vyrnon on -
At least you admit to it. This is probably a fairly common denominator - checking out the opposite sex.
Part of me liked going to church because I got to dress up. Another part of hated going to church because I had to dress up.
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lol!
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Permalink Reply by Justin on -
I miss the social interaction, it was nice always to have someplace to go where there were people that believed the same way that you did. Also I miss the "god has a plan" cop-out, i know totally horrible but I do. When I was young and lost friends to the streets or cancer or etc. It just felt better sometimes to just believe that the controls were on auto pilot. Of course I know that ignorance is sad and annoying but I miss that instant "it's all alright" feeling. I work through things now the hard thoughtful way, and help a lot of my friends through the same; but there are times I wish there was a way to instantly soothe us with some stupid platitude.
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Permalink Reply by Christine Vyrnon on
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ah yes- he is mysterious isn't he? His Will - not mine - be done.
nice at times - other times - like you say - a total cop-out.
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Permalink Reply by Cara Coleen on -
You know, I've found it more comforting that there isn't always a reason why something is happening. Like, one of my friends was practically having a nervous breakdown and her boyfriend was being a douche on top of it. She was crying and asking, "Why is this happening?!" as if God were trying to teach her something. I sort of tried to explain what I thought... that there wasn't any reason; it was just happening. She wasn't being punished and there was no lesson to be learned (except for paying attention when your future significant other is being abnormally insensitive and dense). The reason it was happening was cause and effect, nothing more. This and this happened, so this happened. In order to avoid it in the future, don't do that again. Not you've been bad in ways you can't remember so you're being punished until you get it... or... not.
Anyway... I like that people just die because that's the cycle of life and not because there's some plan being implemented. Instead of trying to justify why God would let some little girl get raped and murdered, I just realize that people are cruel and barbaric. Not that THAT is a good feeling, but... at least God isn't allowing it. I feel more peace knowing things just happen. I dunno... whateve'.
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Permalink Reply by zoolady on
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I'd forgotten all about this until your thread, Christine...but one of my Sunday school teachers used to bring in cupcakes for us. They had biblical verse numbers on them, and when you ate the cupcake, you had to read the verse aloud. The were GOOD cupcakes! (Now that I think of it, she always chose the mildest, most innocuous verses, too...no firey fingers, dire curses or pillars of salt.)
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Permalink Reply by Christine Vyrnon on
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Thumbs up.
Or - just a way for her to say "taste and see that the Lord is good." Psalm 34.8
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ACK! You remember! She's probably dancing in her grave AS WE SPEAK!
I had an excellent memory as a child and won several events which required us to recite passages...I once memorized the entire second chapter of Luke and won the prize. I'd worked hard on that, thinking it'd be some really GREAT item.
Know what they gave me? A little flashlight with a paper banner that said "Let your light so shine among men....."
Cheap creeps, weren't they?
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Permalink Reply by Cara Coleen on
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Let's see... I still hum/sings certain hymns because the tune stirs up a lot of emotion.
It's definitely frustrating now knowing that I can't "intercede" on behalf of my loved ones to protect them from something bad happening. Not that I was ever in control, but I did feel more in control. It has left me feeling somewhat helpless to change certain things that I thought I could at least slightly alter before.
I also miss sneaking around church during prayer meetings or choir practice. I'd always slip into wherever they were stashing the piano and play in the dark... <3
And yeah, the community... everyone going to lunch after church or having after-service parties or, like, Frisbee-football. *sigh*
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