Deconverts - What part of Christian culture do you miss the most? Is there a worship song or hymn you find yourself humming? Do you miss the after church coffees and potlucks? Do you get sentimental about an author or children's book?

I realize there is plenty to NOT miss, but for those who were in the faith longer than out, I'd be very happy to hear about the cultural soft-spots you have since leaving the faith.

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I too miss the community. My wife and I are trying to connect with locals for activities and the organization is just not there. Who would have thought it would be hard to get a couple of families together for dinner and games?
There's only really two things that I miss about my days as a believer. First, when I was in 4th grade, I sang in the choir. That was kinda fun. Second, for a year or two in high school, the church youth group was pretty fun. We'd hang out, have fun, and religion was rarely brought up. This ended when we got a new pastor who disliked the 'easy-going' nature of our youth leader and so fired him and brought in a new evangelical one. I quit youth group the next week.

Other than that, I don't really miss anything about it at all.
I wonder how this no-fun attitude toward youth group worked out for that pastor. Doesn't sound like a smart move on his part.
The new pastor was a very 'end times' type, I doubt if one in ten members of the youth group stuck around.
Same here. My youth group was fun and didn't push the religious message all that much. I really can't say I miss anything else.
My parents aren't overly religious and I never liked going to church when I was young, so I'd say that there's nothing that I miss about it. I was catholic though, so we didn't go to church since we moved in '94, and even before that it was mainly for family things or holy days...
I miss being able to answer every question with a "god did it" response, it made my life so much simpler.
Ha!
and the grape juice (baptists)
I don't miss a thing about it. I never was involved enough to get that warm, fuzzy, communal feeling. Everyone seemed strange to me and their stories made no sense. Plus, when I would ask serious questions, like "how can I be happy in heaven when my loved ones burn in hell" or "do animals go to heaven", the answers ranged from conflicting and unsatisfactory to dismissive and very unsatisfactory.
Good questions - that never got a solid answer. The happy in heaven one makes sense. As a born-againer who more-or-less believed the once-saved always-saved thing - it was an even BIGGER frustration knowing that total assholes, douchebags, and child molesters could be in heaven hanging out with me because they were born again. And to top it of - my atheist grandpa who was the nicest, kindest person ever would burn in hell. But I also knew that "not by works are you saved" spiel pretty well - so - yeah - if you believed - but by the grace of god were they Saved, because no human in their right mind would want to be in heaven with those jerks. Sure - "god judges the heart" - but old habits are heard to break. Do we really want pedophiles hanging out around all those cherubs?

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Do we really want pedophiles hanging out around all those cherubs?

Haha! I figure that cherubs came from the mind of pedophiles. Certainly a place filled with such creatures would be heavenly to them. I find it creepy.

But to your other points, I never as a child felt that God was a fair or just God. But the adults did not care about my protests. In fact, my questions and protests were probably why I never felt that communal feeling. I was an outcast and I didn't even know it.

Yeah, I don't miss it one bit.

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