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Permalink Reply by 0uvz0ojrhcpag on September 26, 2010 at 1:39pm

I'd just say "I'm too old for this shit".

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Permalink Reply by Fancy Nancy on September 27, 2010 at 12:42pm

Me too - too old for this shit.

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Permalink Reply by Nathan Wolf on September 26, 2010 at 5:21pm

Hmm....I guess I'd probably seperate I mean...if I'm married to a woman and she wants to be a man, I just don't think I could do that, just simply because of the fact I'm attracted to women. I don't see why someone should be forced to stay with someone they just aren't genetically attached to anymore. I mean it mind sound a little selfish but I think understanding from the other partner (the one who is considering) is mandatory as well. You know this reminds me of one of my bosses. He was married for like 15-18 years to a woman. He knew all his life he was gay, but just suppressed/ignored it. Eventually he just couldn't take, despite the fact he had two kids. So I asked him one day about his belief in a higher power. And then he tells "I don't think so. After all, if there was a God, why are there so many sick children and why would he make me this way and fuck up two human beings lives?" while that last bit may a little extreme, it probably is truer than I think

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Permalink Reply by Lisa on September 26, 2010 at 9:29pm

If my guy had a sex change, I would have to leave because the thought of his ass in a dress would send me into hysterical laughing fits every single day and I just couldn't function.

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Permalink Reply by Paula on October 9, 2010 at 5:40pm

In my case it would never happen. However, if one's partner wanted a sex change, there is the chance that his whole outlook has changed too, and he probably wouldn't want the same wife anymore anyway. But if my partner did want one, I would have no problem with it whatsoever because I love him as a person, not just a man, and sex would not be an issue for us. It's about companionship and love.

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Permalink Reply by Venus Lovejam on October 11, 2010 at 11:37am

I was with a woman who is now a man. We're still friends and we still dated on and off, but his personality was the deal breaker; It wasn't his gender, it was the person behind the genitals. I got over the whole, "what does this make me?" crap. He had his identity to process so I had to look in the mirror and wonder what I wanted from him. Most people would stay or go, and that's their right to chose. Plus, that transgendered person will also go through so desire changes too and I could've been kicked to the curb anyway.

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Permalink Reply by Christine M on March 29, 2011 at 1:28am

This is an interesting issue and actually one that I find myself in right now. I have come out to my partner as being transgendered and it was so difficult for each of us that evening that when asked if I wanted to change physically to become the woman that I am inside I said that I don't know. I said this for two reasons, 1) we both had about as much as we could for one evening and 2) because at the time I wasn't sure. I have undergone some hormone treatment and she is aware of that but we still have not broached the subject of sex change.

I understand that it really should be my responsibility to bring this back up as it is me that is changing the equation that we both entered into but, it is definately not easy. Fear is a major factor. I have seen it mentioned thatneither should stay if the relationship changes and one or the other is unhappy or uncomfortable with the situation and I agree with it. That's what scares me as I love my partner deeply.

 

I don't believe that there is a moral obligation to stay in a relationship when one of the most basic aspects of it is changed 180 degrees but also feel that there is more to love than ones gender.  "A nice deilema we have her that calls for all our whit".

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Permalink Reply by Nathan Palo on June 3, 2011 at 6:35pm

I think it definitely would be permissible. We don't choose what we are attracted to, so if a significant other would rather have  a sex change, which makes them stop being attractive to you, then you are perfectly justified in ending a romantic or sexual relationship.

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