I'm all 3 of these things at the moment because I'm just feeling out-right miserable. I'm not able to express myself well which has left me depressed. My lack of self-worth on its own has made me feel lost and unmotivated. The dangers of a lack of self-worth can stunt the growth of how creative you are and being content. Every second that I spend in this state drains energy that I could be using to get scholarships and get involved and whatnot. Other people at school can have the energy to do school, work, scholarships, have friends, and extra-curricular activities, but I do not understand how. Maybe they don't have issues, maybe they do but focus on other things, or have resolved them; something... I'm beginning to get fed up with all of these jerks at school and not having a voice. I am continuously being unraveled by the wind that is revealing the wounds underneath. I just can't keep a fake smile like I used to.. When was the last time I really smiled?

Doe anyone else feel like this right now? Any past experiences? How did you deal with it? I'm just curious.

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I went through a two-year clinical depression that paralyzed me as well. I lived off passive income from some websites I operated. They required a small amount of effort to keep operating, which was about all the energy I could muster. 

I lived in Portland, Oregon at the time, and one of my symptoms was that I would feel a need to get out of my apartment and be with people. Not interact with people, just be with them. So what I did is to go out and ride on unfamiliar bus lines to see where they went. I did that on and off for many months, and one benefit turned out to be a pretty complete mental map of the area served by TriMet, the regional bus system. I could easily have become a cab driver or delivery driver with the knowledge I had in my mind. (This was before GPS.)

I got some help from the local Lutheran Family Services who helped me get an antidepressant through my family doctor. (BTW, Lutheran Family Services simply supplied me with a clinical social worker and my treatment was not denominational in any way, so don't assume that using Lutheran Family Services or even the Catholic equivalent means you'll be receiving religion-based counseling. As for my social worker, I left not knowing if she was Lutheran or even Christian.)

All we did was discuss what was going on in my life, the main thing being a relationship with a woman who ultimately I could not have. Once I accepted that, I was able to wander out of he depression.

To those of you whose experience with depression is with the non-clinical, transitory kind that happens after some setback but evaporates after a few days, weeks, or even months, the idea of wandering may seem strange. 

However, to those of you who have experienced a deep clinical depression, I'm sure you'll realize how much a clinical depression can be analogized to being hopelessly lost in a deep dark forest.

Clinical depression isn't feeling sad, though that can be a part of it. It has much more to do with a loss of meaning in one's life, a sense of hopelessness, and a sense of personal worthlessness.

How did I wander out of my depression? Don't laugh! I argued with it and talked back to it. I treated it as though it was a living being trying to intrude into my mind, and when I felt its presence I'd say (in my head) "Go away! Get out of my head!"

Well, I suppose I did say it out loud sometimes, when I was alone at home.

Silly as it sounds, it worked for me. 

I have a variety of problems but always refused to get help - in part due to my issues. Depression and lack of self-esteem/self-worth are two of my problems and I haven't been able to deal with them on my own. So I finally started getting help but waiting about three decades before doing so means a lot of crap to work through so it's taking a while to deal with them.

Things got worse for me when I lost my job and couldn't get a new one. Whether intentional or not, I put some of my self-worth in being employed.

The first part of my advice would be to get professional help - whether through your parents' insurance or through a free counseling service in your area.

The second part would be to examine your past and try to figure out what has helped you feel more confident / enhanced your self-worth. Then get back to doing / experiencing that if at all possible. And if it's not, see if someone else can help you with that.

You might also want to see if there is an atheist group in your area you can socialize with. And see if there is a gay youth / young adults group in your area for support and socializing.

I realize Texas has a reputation for not being tolerant towards atheists or gays but I have been very surprised at reports of decent behavior even in intolerant places so you could find support groups. But you'll only find them if you look.

I'm glad you're asking for help since that's the first step towards getting better. It says somewhere down inside you do know you have worth - you just need to bring that more to the surface.

The root of my depression goes all the way back to my high school years. It was never severe, but over decades, it became more and more debilitating. Thinking my problems were unique and difficult for anyone else to understand, I thought I just had to tough it out myself. It wasn't until my 30s when I got some help, which I terminated to start a new, married life, and then another couple of decades passed before the growing depression degraded into isolation and homelessness.

The homelessness finally triggered family, (mostly christian) charity, and veterans organizations to give me all the medical care, psych treatment, social environment and counseling I needed to get back on my feet. It "only" took two years! I know that sounds like a long time, but it was really short and sweet compared to the decades spent sliding down into an abyss. The moral of my story is that I wish I didn't feel so independent, unreachable, and unique in my problems back then, because I was just one (of probably millions) in the world who had the same kinds of problems, and for whom real, professional help exists. (And fuck the people who look down and say we should be able to fix ourselves all by ourselves!)

I sometimes use these feelings because they are familiar and I can control them. There is comfort in discomfort. really the only solution I have found is to reach out for help and try and change my attitude.My brain is a muscle and if I do the right exercises it can change.In this case we need to let go of our negative attitude try and think positive with the help of others and be patient. Oh ya, the other thing that helps is getting out of your own skin by helping others. Not sure this helps but I can empathize and understand what you are going through.The best way to gain self worth is by doing simple things like making the bed and doing the dishes etc........

With my depression comes a feeling of boredom and intense loneliness but I've found the solution is to simply be around people. It helps so much. As some have said, a good way to combat it is to treat it as an enemy that needs to be dealt with. 


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