Too much drama

So I found my biological family. Now my entire life has changed in the blink of an eye. On one hand, I feel "complete." I can look in the mirror and know where I came from...I now have the answers to all my questions, and I now understand myself much better...

On the other hand, what I found was not all roses. I suppose I always knew that. But now that I really REALLY know, I have to make sense of it all and almost re_figure out who I am in the midst of it. It is a dream come true, and my worst nightmare all at the same time.

One thing that is REALLY cool is to see the whole "nature vs nurture" thing right before my very eyes. I can tell you that who I am so really like 85% genetic. 15% environment. But I MUST SAY that that 15% is all education. And although the genes play the role, My education is what has made me able to surpass and survive in a way that my siblings could not...

I could have EASILY ended up like my sisters. And in a lot of ways I did anyway...

I am honestly still processing it all. It is really happy and sad all at the same time. But I am SOOOOO thankful that this happened...

I guess the point is to say that our genes DO play a huge role in who we are. So maybe I am jumping on the (almost) predeterminism bandwagon after all. But I am living proof that EDUCATION is what makes all the difference. That is one thing my parents did right is make sure I went to college. If I hadn't....I don't know...

I am still processing everything...

Do you see your genes dictating who you are?

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Permalink Reply by Simon Paynton on February 23, 2016 at 6:29am

"surpass and survive"

- I think this is the story of your life @Belle.

"Do you see your genes dictating who you are?"

- that question is so awesome I can't even begin to answer it at short notice.

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Permalink Reply by TJ on February 23, 2016 at 9:01am

Your genes dictate your framework, your nurture dictates what you do with it.

Its like a house...your genes say "You are a two story colonial", your nurture then adds what neighborhood that house is in, etc.

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Permalink Reply by Michelle Sandall on February 23, 2016 at 4:09pm

I know not a thing about the subject but good luck dealing with all of this stuff you sound like a courageous woman and I hope it all works out well for you x

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Permalink Reply by Belle Rose on February 23, 2016 at 8:40pm

Oh girl, that's just the tip of the iceberg. Haha!

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Permalink Reply by Davis Goodman on February 24, 2016 at 3:55am

Thats hard core Belle.

How was the meeting with them? Were they delighted to see you? Where they polite/gracious hosts? Did you meet both your mother/father? Did they give you the impression they want to keep a relationship with you? Do you want that? What did the whole experience feel like?

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Permalink Reply by Belle Rose on February 24, 2016 at 1:26pm

@Davis

How was the meeting with them?

It was....beyond amazing. I am honestly still processing it all.

Were they delighted to see you?

Oh yah. Everyone was happy. :)

Where they polite/gracious hosts?

Yes, my biological father comes from an amazing family. They bent over backwards for us. Then (unfortunately) my sisters (on my mom's side) stole from my cousin's wife. So...there was a lot of drama surrounding that after the fact.

Did you meet both your mother/father?

Yes. I met both parents, my siblings, nieces, nephews, cousins, aunts, uncles...and I am also a great aunt! (imagine that.)

Did they give you the impression they want to keep a relationship with you?

Yes :)

Do you want that?

I do. Especially with my Mom and Dad. Me and my Mom are becoming very close. My Dad too. He is helping me design a tattoo right now. :)

What did the whole experience feel like?

I will have to get back to you on this one.. I am still coming to terms with it all.

There is soooooooooo much drama with the family on my Mom's side....I am suddenly thrust into the bouts of sibling rivalry (which I have never had to deal with) along with just the fact that the whole fucking family is messed up, and involved with some serious shit.

I am most focused right now on helping my oldest niece. She is in danger right now and my brother isn't doing anything about it. She is only 17 with a baby and one on the way. Her life is being threatened and some bitches are talking shit about jumping her...

Oh NM....it just never stops. Thug life to the nth degree.