I often have wondered recently if I am unique in my respect and amazement at the Power of Men.

I suppose first I should state my position as an Atheist. A Feminist. A Mother. A Woman. The most feminine, and proud of it!

I do believe there are many men who perhaps feel threatened, de-masculinated (if that is even a word. If not I just made it up) or even abused by strong women and/or other men. After all, there are women and men out there who ARE abusive towards men. And many men in that position feel just as helpless, just as hopeless, and just as hurt as a woman in a domestically violent relationship. I feel that the help available to men who are abused by their partners is hard to come by, and despite its availability in some cases, there is a lot of sociological reasons why men do not generally feel safe even talking about it. So they suffer in silence. Sometimes for years...or even decades. Just as the battered woman fears, so does the battered man. And who would hear them? Sometimes....no one.

Isn't that sad?

On the other hand there is another type of man. The man who seeks power and control. The cultural constraints by which he can do so vary across the globe, but this type of man is found everywhere. Perhaps YOU (reading this right now) are one of them. You may not know that you are because your reality has never been any different. Something....a long time ago....made you this way. You may not know what it is. Or....you might know and simply not care. Or....you might care but wonder how on Earth you can change! Perhaps you've been told you are abusive. But perhaps you yourself were abused.

That is very sad too, isn't it?

Then there are strong men out there. They are amazing. Those men who have risen above it all and become larger than life. The heroes of their loved ones, friends and family, a role model for many to look up to, able to handle anything that comes their way, strong in their responsibilities, amazing, amazing, amazing men.......who rarely (if ever) get recognized. Who never ask to be recognized. Who never brag, but have all the reason to. Who deserve 10,000 virgins....no wait....no....but you get the idea :-) JOKE!!!! Ok don't get your feathers ruffled people!

We hear a lot about the empowerment of women now a days. That is good. Yaay!!! GO WOMEN!! But....I think we need to hear more about the amazing influences of men. I have seen in many instances in my life how the mere presence of a man in certain circumstances....makes everything all better. Makes things brighter, and makes life happier.

I see it when my son plays with a random dad on the playground who is willing to roll around with his own son...and mine, and my son latches on with yearning for more.

I saw it in my neighbor who while he had his flaws, he watched out for me, and protected me under volatile circumstances.

I've seen it in the way my son looks at his own father in the eyes.

I've felt the relief when I served alongside many men in the line of duty, and felt thankful they were there to control the situation, because they are (and will always be) so strong...physically.

I've felt more like a woman when a man randomly smiles at me, it lifts me up and reminds me I'm beautiful.

I've felt it on TA the way so many men voice their belief that I am a human being worth fighting for to remain in control of my body and freedoms, and I've seen it the way men all over the world uplift women....

I could go on....but I want to end with this:

Men: you are more powerful than you realize. Here's to all the men.


Thank you for being Atheist men.

You ROCK!!!

Men: Do you ever feel under appreciated?

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I sometimes feel under appreciated within my own family, but I'm not going to beef about it because I'm a man.  Suffice to say, sometimes women in a family like to gang up on and bully men.  It's a bit sad, but it's up to me to deal with it. 

I do have a "hero" who is a privilege to know and has supplied a few quotes for my website.  He suffered from the same thing a lot worse and has been rejected by his wife and daughter, completely unfairly, and while it's their loss, it doesn't have to be that way. 

"... there are many men who perhaps feel threatened, de-masculinated ... by ... by strong women and/or other men."  - I seem to have this effect on some insecure men, I think it's because I'm a very happy person, hard as nails (underneath), and kind to women.  Also, a pretty boy, and it drives them nuts.  (ho ho)

On a different note, Hope told us about this excellent book which I've just ordered from Amazon: 

Nice post Belle, it's good to get a view of what women want from men. 

Thanks Simon! Although my hope wasn't to discuss what women "want"... so much as for men to voice their frustrations of not being recognized for being strong.....but as you can see, strong men need no validation or outside approval, hence the lack of responses!!! LOL!!! I suppose the post is meant to serve as a reminder that strong men make a huge difference in the well-being of our species

"voice their frustrations of not being recognized for being strong."  - I wonder if this is true, Belle.  A strong person knows they're strong, and they don't need a lot of recognition.  In my opinion.  What they do need is not to be abused, like you say. 

If men sometimes aren't recognized for being strong, maybe it's because they are not being strong, and yet they try and pretend they are. 

At the same time, it's good to be told that we don't recognize our own power.  This is empowering in itself. 

Somehow it would be good to do more in society what you have done in your post - recognize when men get it right.  The purpose of this is to propagate and teach more of this behaviour, which is desperately needed. 

RE: At the same time, it's good to be told that we don't recognize our own power. This is empowering in itself.

Good! It is supposed to be :)

It's good to be respectful of the opposite sex Belle. But in the end we are all individuals who should be judged by the content of their character. And when you discover someone who accepts you for who you truly are then cherish that relationship because they are few and far between. Peace.

RE:.....in the end we are all individuals who should be judged by the content of their character....

Said like a Doctor Mr King ;)

Hmm... "Emasculation" is, I think, the word you were looking for. 

Men are not only under-appreciated, in some quarters there's an open season on us.

Sitcoms: how many are there where women are made fun of vs the ones who depict us as stupid, stodgy, inept, wimpy, or otherwise ridiculous. Most of the time, the wife, girlfriend, female partner, whatever, is depicted as the oe who is brighter, more psychologicaly secure, and generally grounded.

I don't understand what you mean. Yum.

It is comedy after all.

Would you dismiss it as just "comedy" if it made fun of Native Americans, Jews, or black Americans?


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