We've all seen that scene in the popular movie where the guy can't resist planting a heavy-duty open-mouthed kiss on the main female character.

Simple question: Is this still romantic or is it now regarded as kind of rapey?

Opinions from the females encouraged.

Oh, and what about real life? Are such kisses now a no-no?

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RE: We've all seen that scene in the popular movie where the guy can't resist planting a heavy-duty open-mouthed kiss on the main female character.
Simple question: Is this still romantic or is it now regarded as kind of rapey?

It's Hollywood. It is always seen as romantic on screen. "Rapey" would be if she didn't want it. But.....it's Hollywood. So we assume she always does.

But in real life, if it comes from someone you're not attracted to (though perhaps you haven't made that clear), is it rapey or just a fumble on the guy's part?

Throw alcohol into the equation/formula and the outcome becomes more predictable. 

Is there an answer in there somewhere? Is a kiss like that a fumble and/or a rape?

If both individuals are "under the influence" then the attraction has dubious origins. A heavy open mouth exchange of tongues right from the git-go seems a bit excessive and a sure way to douse the "flames of desire." I wouldn't call a heavy handed kiss an act of rape necessarily but it could be considered in extremely poor taste and may get you an unexpected slap across the face.

Probably a fumble on the guy's part. Of course it's hard to say unless I'm in the situation....but rapists don't "kiss" you....

Some colleges are requiring that permission be asked every step along the way among their students. I have a feeling even a lot of females think that is going a little too far.

I have a feeling even a lot of females think that is going a little too far.

No doubt. But which ones, or more importantly, how can one know which ones don't think that? (I'm asking you in the context of desired social rules, not in the context of your personal experience.)

Can you give an example of one of these colleges "policies"?

This is now law in California. Some commentary in California's law.

Coming to New York universities?

Google on "affirmative consent" and you'll fine more.

So may I ask, what specifically about affirmative consent do you think is "going too far"? I mean what do you disagree with?

I am just asking, do we want romance to be reduced to a bunch of contractual agreements? And is there really any romance left if things go in that direction?

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