This situation is a hot mess. I am wondering what your thoughts are. See the following link first: HERE
Highlights from the article:
it must be done for the right reasons or the purpose is corrupted.
That makes a ton of sense
It sounds as if you have a wonderful relationship with all your current family, and it also sounds as if you have both committed to each other and to your family in a very profound way. Kudos to you all.
(also, best wishes for the birth of your newest family member!)
I feel very obsessed when I get to know any surrogate mother giving the child to the intended parents. How come they never develop attachment with the child she kept in her womb for 9 months? I think she does. But, it is just a commitment that she made to herself, she knew already that one day she has to give away the child for money. I feel very bad for them.