I agree with you Lee. Love and sex are brain functions. I also agree with Heather when she states that there are so many other factors that come into play when one comes to the realization that their outward gender expression in incongruent with their inner being. I would hope that when an individual decides to undergo SRS that many of those social, familial and cultural issues have been addressed. SRS is in no way the beginning of the transition process nor is it the end of that process.
My thoughts to those thinking about it. Is it wrong. No. I have no cause to tell you who to be. In the words of Jefferson, "...It neither picks my pocket nor breaks my leg." We all have differences between us. It's those differences that give us strength as a society or group. The sooner we accept them as a group, the sooner we will find the strength in that difference.
I would say that the change has to be tremendously difficult. If I were one thinking about it, I would seek out a transgender group to discuss it and the trials that you'd face. It's one thing to have that relief of seeing who you are in the mirror, but what is what everyone else sees going to do to your daily life? The keys to overcoming that would be found in those groups, but they likely only exist in larger cities. Your patience will be tested, but it is required in order to change the hearts of those that won't understand.
If someone wants to change their gender, that's OK for me. Their body, their life.
However, I'm curious about how the FTM or MTF works in physical terms.
For instance women are always marketed the calcium and estrogen to prevent osteoporosis idea. So women need estrogen to prevent osteoporosis. Right. So how come men and children don't need it? Does a FTM person have a higher or lower risk of osteoporosis than a plain F or M, or MTF? That is just one example that I haven't seen clearly answered in the usual trans documentation. Or how does the FTM or MTF body deal with decades of artificial sex hormones? Does it make any difference if the original sexual apparatus wasn't removed (such as the "man" that gave birth a few years ago, who still had "his" original uterus present)?
Sex is how your body is presented (in physical terms), that is if it's a female or male body.
Gender is how the brain works. As I don't usually understand how women think (and most of my friends have always been male), I don't define my gender as female. I'm between, or closer to male thinking than what my physical body (female) indicates. My gender is 85 % male trapped in a female body.
That does not mean I want to fix the discrepancy between the mental gender and the physical body. (When my body started to transform from a more or less unisex child body to that of a more female one, I was horrified, felt cheated by the body, and I'm still grossed out by most female body functions.) There's nothing wrong with having a mind wired differently than the physical body.
Congratulations!!! Sounds like you're transgender! Many of us never transition and/or never want to.
There's nothing wrong with having a mind wired differently than the physical body.
That's pretty much my opinion too. I'm neither male nor female gendered.
It's sad how so many cisgendered people think that years of counseling should be a requirement to transition. Yet, the transgender community has fought for years to have gender identity disorder removed from the DSM.
Let me see if I can sum up most people's arguments here. You don't understand how anyone can be transgendered because you're not. Transgendered people must be really confused about who they are because who they are really confuses you. Therefore, THEY need counseling to deal with THEIR confusion.
If you're cisgendered, congratulations, you won the lottery. You fit in. Isn't that great? You get all kinds of special privileges that you didn't do a damn thing to earn. What's more, you get to have an opinion on things you know nothing about. You can rest securely in your position of privilege, and have lovely, philosophical discussions about whether sexual reassignment is "OK" or not.
That sure must be swell.