Hi all....I'm BAAAAACK!  My name's Melissa.  I joined T/A some time ago, participated, and enjoyed it a lot before deleting my account a few months ago.  Why did I leave, you ask?  Well, allow me to explain.  When I originally joined I used my full name, just like it asked when I registered.  Silly me - it didn't occur to me that it would be my username.  So I had no idea that it would be used it publicly!   Well, recently I started job hunting and realized that my T/A page was coming up under a Google search for me.  Yup, you guessed it, I wussed out.  I didn't want any prospective employers to find me on an atheist social networking site, so I deleted my account. 


I know, I know, I'm a chickenshit, but I just didn't want to take any chances.  We atheists are the most hated minority in the country after all, and I do need a job, so I felt it was the best thing to do.  But there's still a part of me that feels like I should have stood tall and come out of the closet fully. 


See, I'm one of those people who believe that the more of us who come out of the close then the more we'll be accepted (eventually).  Main stream society just doesn't know enough of us - we're like this dark mystery to people and they don't trust us.  The more of us they get to know, the more they'll see us as regular people.  Eventually - over time - some of the trust and fear will start to lessen. At least I believe that's something that would help.  So the question is why the hell didn't I stand up and walk proudly out of the closet? Easier said than done. Still, I feel like such a wuss. 


Anyway, I'm back and looking forward to taking part in discussions again.

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I understand what you are saying about the importance of being "open."  It's the reason that Richard Dawkins started his "Out Campaign."  But, in this instance, I honestly don't think that it matters.  I use a handle name on any forum where I post, and it's not because I'm hiding.  Rather, it's because I come to these sites to exchange ideas.  My personal information is irrelevant.  If someone wants to talk to me about religion, theism, spirituality, etc then I am more than happy too do so.  I do not need to put my personal information on the internet for all to see in order to be open about my understanding of the objective nature of the universe in my day to day life.
Agreed.  It was really a trivial error that just happened to lead to this conflict for me.  I have always felt that I should put my money where my mouth is, so to speak, so I think it bothered me more because of that.

is there a way where my T/A posts wont be seen when they search my name? I'm afraid someone at work will see it and it'll be the end of my teaching career at a catholic school lol!

Welcome back!  I don't think you are a chickenshit.  I think that was a practical move.  Ideology is one thing, but paying the bills is another.  It's not like you are working for a church, right?  Right?
What we need is a network of business owners that are Atheists that can offer jobs to other Atheist so we dont have to worry about hidding out like some kind of criminal. I am sure that there a many large companys that are owned or run by Atheists that are not able to express this fact in fear of loosing business or current employees. If there was a way for them to know who we are that are in need of employment... im sure there is a way of making something like this work.
hey, welcome back.  Don't feel like chickenshit because a lot of us would have done the same thing.  Like you said, we all need a job and unfortunately we are a minority that is discriminated against.  I don't tell people at work I'm an atheist for fear of it affecting future oppurtunities. 

Don't sweat it.  I had a family member (sister-in-law's husband) moved his family to Georgia for that killer job we all covet.  When the company was sold out from under him and he had to strike out on his own, he couldn't find clients due to his hispanic-sounding surname.


So he changed it.


Fifteen years later, and he is turning away clients.


Sometimes, we do what we do for the sake of those we love.

Welcome back! :)
I would have done the same thing, Melissa.  It's the smart thing to do.  Being an atheist is not synonymous with being a masochist.  It's a matter of priorities and for most of us that means our jobs.  I'm an atheist and believe in pushing atheism but there are other realities at play for us common folk.  Atheism is a personal position about God.  It doesn't supersede nature's prime directive: SURVIVE.  And for must of us, mere survival isn't enough.  We also want many things that require money.

You've got nothing to feel guilty about.  You didn't let anybody down.  You did the smart thing.

Thanks for the welcome back!  I did change my name on the previous account, but I didn't know I could change the URL.  Oh well....I'm BACK NOW!  And you probably can't get rid of me this time.  LOL. 

I'm really happy to be here.  This is a great community that many of us need or just enjoy being a part of. 

See you around T/A.

Welcome back. You were right to change your username. Christians can be very judgemental and unforgiving of those outside of the herd – sorry I mean flock. Hope the job hunting goes well.
Have you done the search again to be sure that it really doesn't exist even as a link any longer? I deleted my account from a different networking site and a search for the dance team I was a part of would still pull up a link to pictures I had posted with out team's name as the title. Clicking on it wouldn't lead anywhere, but it somehow still showed up in a search. Just double check to be safe if you haven't already!


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