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Permalink Reply by Akshay Bist on September 17, 2011 at 1:46pm

You can't convert or pretend-convert, so you got only one choice - you gotta talk to her about it & make her see your point of view.

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Permalink Reply by Doug Reardon on September 17, 2011 at 4:50pm

If she could see his point of view, she wouldn't be religious.

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Permalink Reply by Akshay Bist on September 17, 2011 at 5:45pm

Not really. There are inter religion relationships & in those, one person doesn't always convert to the religion of the other. Sometimes they keep their religious beliefs & relationship separate.

There is a difference between understanding someones point of view & believing in or agreeing with it.

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Permalink Reply by Patrick D. Mahoney on September 17, 2011 at 2:40pm

Having had relationships with Christians, Jews, spiritualists, and non-believers, I have found it always worked out best to explain your POV and see where that takes you.  My habit of cracking jokes about Jesus or Moses has rarely got me very far.  But, even if you love this person, and you want to marry or have kids with them, what happens when they want a Christian wedding or to take your kids to church?  This very point ended my longest relationship because I wouldn't automatically let any child I had try church first rather than not be forced into religion.  (Sorry for the long and rambling answer.)

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Permalink Reply by Gary C on September 17, 2011 at 2:45pm

I am married to a reasonably devout Catholic who is at this moment off on some religious retreat north of Toronto.  It has caused some considerable tension from time to time.  If you want to know how this came about, at the time we were married she was not at all active, (never even went to church) and basically considered herself excommunicated due to her personal circumstances.  As she became more active in her previous religion under the influence of friends, I have been finding my own friends and am now active in a local atheist group. 

 

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Permalink Reply by erik112358 on September 17, 2011 at 3:49pm

man... no offense, but I don't think I could ever involve myself with someone that blindly religious in the first place.

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Permalink Reply by Lewal on September 17, 2011 at 4:55pm

Tell her that Timothy 2:12, Corinthians 14:34, and Titus 2:5 all seem to say that a woman should submit to a man and that she should never speak out of turn, much less to try to teach him about God. Then ask her if she's a real Christian.

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Permalink Reply by Akshay Bist on September 17, 2011 at 5:47pm

ohh, nice thinking.

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Permalink Reply by Reggie on September 18, 2011 at 12:35am

Ditto!

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Permalink Reply by Evan Meinel on September 18, 2011 at 2:57am

wow. haha that would be really funny but im pretty sure it would upset her and i just cant stand to see her cry. its the guilt that gets me >./p>

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Permalink Reply by Lewal on September 19, 2011 at 7:57am

Yeah, sometimes you gotta temper your integrity with a little compassion. It's just hard to know where to draw the line. I know what you mean because I've liked this Christian girl for some time now and have to quell the urge to question her beliefs regularly. Which is a complete compromise of my integrity, but... I guess that's the trade-off. It boils down to what's more important to you, your personal values or her love and affection.

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Permalink Reply by Unseen on September 17, 2011 at 9:11pm

Find another girlfriend.

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