Sheri, let your mum bang on about her god. Kids always love their grandparents no matter how nutty they are, when my mum died my aunt stepped in as a proxy nan to my daughters and she can't say three sentences without bringing up some angel or saint. But the daughters love her and I don't argue my point because she only talks of love and eternal happiness. If she were to suddenly start spewing damnation and hell fire- I would have to step in and stop her.
Why don't you gently remind her that kids love to hear about the old stories about the ark or the good samaritan. These stories are harmless as long as you tell stories of fairies and goblins in the same fashion. With love and honesty.
Your kids will work it out.
Is it at the point where every single meeting is stressful, upsetting, non-constructive and aggravating? Is there any compromise from her side? Is it beginning to feel borderline-abusive?
I have no idea what to suggest or recommend except don't let anyone scare your children with superstitions or toxic nonsense. I love your response "I love you too grandma". That's sweet.
Good luck and strength :)
I quit visiting my mother for an extended period of time when she wouldn't lighten up on the proselytizing. She got the message and now holds her tongue on matters of religion. There is so many other things to talk about anyway.
Maybe she's just worried that she will be unhappy because she won't see you in heaven. That worried my mom too until I asked her if there would be any unhappiness in heaven. She answered no. I explained to her that I had heard that God would remove all memory of any loved ones not in heaven so that you couldn't be unhappy in heaven. That seemed to work for her. Now she's gone so I know she's not unhappy. She's not anything.
"don't worry, if your god has a plan for me to be 'saved', i will be, with of without your in put" - there are 100 ways to put this in a more sympathetic way, entirely up to you.
I am no parent but i can tell you maybe the best thing to do is sit down with your kids and tell them that some people are not "Weird" But there different and come across as "Weird" because of how they act or what they say. When they's different people just need more time to understand everyone's different as well as themselves. But that depends on there age and i am sure you all ready told them something along this line. As for you mother i would allow her to do what she does and in-return make a deal that your mother can tell them her side but keep it to a limit? make sure she doesn't push them to hard. but idk some people even dont understand that.