What do you think about prostitution? Should it be legal? Have you ever tried it and, if yes, how?
EDIT: For anyone reading this, I am interested in whether you hired a prostitute, or offered your services in exchange of money. I am not looking for tips on how to hire a prostitute. :)
If a girl sleeps with you just because you bought her a drink, I think that's a slut or someone with no self esteem. I've known girls like that, so don't tell they are not out there.
I actually feel offended when I get the feeling that someone is trying to buy me into bed with dinner or a drink. Common guys, I don't need money, I need content (and hygene) :p
Like I said, my best friend work in protitution, and she tells me everything... just because I'm the only one who is open about it. She is a passive muslim. But she feels the same way about men she meets in outside her job. Money is not an issue, because she wants to be self reliant.
I think the problem is that vagina access is a commodity. So is breast access. Because they must be bought, earned, sold, or otherwise gained from a lady. And for some reason, there is higher "commodity value" on women who are harder to get--aka harder to 'conquer' and women who are "easy" are seen as cheap, "slutty" or "worthless", because they have somehow "lessened" the price of their commodity. Nevermind sex with a male is also a commodity--it is 1.) easily gotten, should you have a vagina and are not too picky(I have no clue how hard it is for homosexual men to find sexual partners). 2.) not seen as a commodity by the world at large, because of how male-dominated our culture is.
It brings to mind male prostitutes. How many of those exist? How many males are arrested each year for selling their bodies? The number is either very low or nonexistent. And at the very least--the numbers are much lower, and the commodity being sold is very different.
If I had no vagina or pair of boobs, would I still be a person? Yes. but I would be seen immediately as worthless to many males, and I would no longer have that "bargaining chip" with any guy I dated--It would be convenient to be able to get rid of those two things, though, as I could focus on finding a male who's not interested in access to either of my "commodities", and rather, is really into my brain and nice conversations.
But I can't. There really is no way for our culture to separate sex from a person. You are female or you are Male(transsexuals do not get to be a 3rd gender), you are either a slut or it is "just how men are supposed to be".
I would like to be more free with my sexual activities, but guess what? I can't, any guy, or even girl, that I do something with casually will see me as a slut or whore or just plain "easy". I will cease to be a person and become a commodity that is easily had--that no one wants to buy anyways. I already have to fight against the stereotype that all fat chicks are "easy" and will have sex with anyone willing to give them the time of day.
I wish sex from women wasn't a commodity, but unfortunately it is.
And the women being harshest critics--where do you think that came from? the idea of status being determined by whomever can gain the most amount of money, land the richest husband, have the biggest engagement ring, all without having any sex whatsoever--women aren't supposed to enjoy sex, and this is reinforced by culture and religion--it doesn't matter if our sex organs give us pleasure, the biggest fantasy I always find(from Victorian times to now) is a girl who really enjoys sex. That's the entire fantasy. However, women know that if they show any gusto for it, males automatically see them as less than ladies, and as one of the words for promiscuous women.
I would love to see some of the gender identities taken apart--it's not just women that can have low libidos. It's not just men that have high libidos. It's not only women who like clothes or cooking. It's not just men who can like sports or cars. Even within nerd culture, there are animes--some that men like, some that women like. There are certain fandoms, some that are full of men, others that are full of women. Fairy Tales are often seen as a female genre. The division of Male and female goes too deep for me to follow it, and it always puts me off that it would take a lot of work--but I think taking it apart would be worth it.
First we need less stereotypes in TV.
Wait, what's the female equivalent of machismo?
There's none, almost by definition of gender roles in cultures where machismo is prevalent. When men are expected to be machos, women are expected to be marianistas.
Huge fan of sex on the first date (provided it is 100% consensual and accompanied by use of contraceptive and condom for safety's sake): my husband and I had sex on the first date, well, actually before the first date and we've been together since 1985. And, not once did he ever think of me as a slut (even though, horrors!! he wasn't the first). Yay, husband!
I love this post by "chanson" who is one of the moderators at Main Street Plaza and has her own blog (Lettersfromabroad), I agree with what she says, although my dating days are behind me, also:
Over Labor Day weekend I had a few drinks at the Stone Rose Lounge in the Time Warner Center in NYC. My friend had dragged me around shopping most of the weekend and wanted to do more at Time Warner Ctr and I said "enough, meet me at the bar when you are finished!" Well, $45 ($15 a drink) and 2 1/2 hours later she showed up!! Thanks to Jeff Bezos I had my Kindle otherwise I might have been quite grateful (wink, wink, nudge, nudge) to someone who offered to pay for my drinks and keep me company while I waited for my shopahilic friend. On the other hand, I am at an age where my "f&#kability quotient" is quite low so doubt I'd even receive any offers :D
But seriously - sex for a drink? I don't think so. The concept of sleeping with someone you weren't attracted to just because he bought you a drink is beyond comprehension. What about this though? Lots of women don't "own" their sexuality so maybe they use the "well, I felt I owed him" line to avoid taking responsibility for their sexual decisions. Do some women feel, deep down, that they are not allowed to be sexual unless there is some quid pro quo? Is it somehow worse to "give if away" for free, for a woman to have sex for the simple reason that she wants to??
I think it should be legal however i had some reservations about the concept.
I think that if a society believes that human sexuality has a monetary value or that a persons worth can be quantified sexually than that is a problem. I think we shouldn't need prostitution in the first place. But since we have it lets try to make it better for every party involved but also try to find a way do decrease its need in society. maybe address sexual repression issues and be more vocal and open minded about pre/post marital sexual affairs, the role of women in society etc...
And in my opinion pornography is a form of prostitution, but that's another topic for another day.
so in short yes its should be legal with health and security oversight and regulation and workers protection but with concern over "big government" and long term plans.
Too bad there aren't any romanians over here. I would recommend a song about prostitution... :) Anyway, it's something like: "Nobody wants to hear/talk about you, but everyone knows your address." I think it describes very well the population's view on this particular topic (not to mention the fact that anyone knows where to get a prostitute :) ). You can hear people complain about the results of this kind of subjects but you never see them really trying to do something. They always seem to think that it's other people's duty to do something about it, and all they have to do is enjoy the results.
And, has anyone seen Eyes Wide Shut? It's Stanley Kubrick's last film. It portrays very well how women are looked upon these days. I remember seeing this one as a child on TV. I was so excited about watching naked ladies. I watched it again recently and it amazed me how much my opinion of it has changed, and how childish my view on the world used to be. Too bad people still maintain that perspective even as adults. And a lot of people don't seem to get Kubrick's point. Such a shame. Anyway, if you haven't seen it, you should check it out.