I was raised as a christian and a few months ago I became an atheist. However the members of my family are all still believers.

Currently I am in the USN stationed in Spain and have not been home in almost a year.

So I have been trying to decide if I should tell them I'm an athiest before I come home, so they can try and let it sink in and accept it.

Or should I tell them face to face and see what happens?

Hoping all you people who have gone through this can give me some advice on which to do. Or just let me hear some of your stories. It has been a great help reading all the forum posts here on TA.

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You know your family and can make a much better guess as to how they will respond than I can. Personally, I did not take it as something that needed to be "announced"; rather something to deal with as it came up. I never directly told my family I was atheist. They would not disown me, but it would hurt their feelings. I just stopped going to church with them, and answered questions with "I don't really believe that".  Nobody discusses it with me anymore, so I've left it at that. I tell other people I'm atheist if it comes up in conversation.


If you're picking one option or the other, I would go with face to face.

I told my family face to face but it would have been against my personality to do it differently. We had theological discussion for years before hand, so they already knew I didn't take the orthodox xian views at face value.

I agree that there is no need to walk into the door and say "Hey, I'm an atheist". Are they type of people who constantly talk about religion? If yes, then it will naturally come up. Otherwise just wait until someone asks you something religious and you can slowly reveal your non-belief.

I agree with those here saying to deal with it as it comes up. There's really no need for a huge announcement, and bringing it up suddenly can worsen the experience. I was outed against my will by a family member...it came on suddenly and was VERY hard to deal with. I suggest doing it face-to-face and one-on-one if you can when it comes up. Being ganged up on is not fun.
I told my mother first and she understood but my brother was a bit more violent with the screaming and the yelling but i Think its better to tell them face to face
Justin dealing with this or any other issue of great importance from a distance or virtually is not something I would recommend. On the phone they can always hang-up, on the computer not reply. I think this is something serious enough that you need to make sure you are heard and your voice respected. You need be able to be there to answer questions and defend yourself. Also it is a lot harder to ignore someone when they are right in front of you. Be gentle, be kind but be strong and proud in your decision to do this. We can help you get ready if you choose to ask for help as you get closer.

I told them face to face but it really depends on your family though. You should listen to your instincts. 


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