I was raised as a christian and a few months ago I became an atheist. However the members of my family are all still believers.
Currently I am in the USN stationed in Spain and have not been home in almost a year.
So I have been trying to decide if I should tell them I'm an athiest before I come home, so they can try and let it sink in and accept it.
Or should I tell them face to face and see what happens?
Hoping all you people who have gone through this can give me some advice on which to do. Or just let me hear some of your stories. It has been a great help reading all the forum posts here on TA.
You know your family and can make a much better guess as to how they will respond than I can. Personally, I did not take it as something that needed to be "announced"; rather something to deal with as it came up. I never directly told my family I was atheist. They would not disown me, but it would hurt their feelings. I just stopped going to church with them, and answered questions with "I don't really believe that". Nobody discusses it with me anymore, so I've left it at that. I tell other people I'm atheist if it comes up in conversation.
If you're picking one option or the other, I would go with face to face.
I agree that there is no need to walk into the door and say "Hey, I'm an atheist". Are they type of people who constantly talk about religion? If yes, then it will naturally come up. Otherwise just wait until someone asks you something religious and you can slowly reveal your non-belief.
I told them face to face but it really depends on your family though. You should listen to your instincts.