Hello all!

 I've recently come out as an atheist to my friends and family, with varying responses. My parents are heartbroken and disappointed in me and there is an extreme amount of emotional tension between us.

I am 20 years old and living at home. At the end of this Spring semester I will graduate from the local junior college and after I want to take about a year off before I continue any higher education.  Also happening at the end of this semester, my girlfriend and two of my other friends are moving to another city on the other side of the state. We have made plans to all move there together and all live together, but I have not told my family. 

My girlfriend and I are not planning on getting married, but we do plan to live together. My parents find this to be one of the worst ways to live in 'sin'. On the one hand, I feel like I've caused them so much pain and maybe this move isn't a good idea. On the other hand, I feel like moving is what I want to do and my family and I need space from each other. I also think that this is my life to live and I should do it according to what I think is right. 


I'm wanting other opinions. So the question is: should I make the move?

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They'll be upset at first, but will eventually get used to it. Sure, they'll never like it, but ultimately it's your life, not theirs. You can't let their beliefs dictate your life. You don't share their delusions, so don't live in their shackles. If you feel that moving is the right thing for you to do, do it. Don't let anyone guilt you into living a life you don't want to live. Life experiences are gold! Don't hold yourself back for anyone!
Excellent advice.

Morgan pretty much said everything I was going to. So I'd like to echo his advice. Live your life, and don't let others hold you back. Your parent's won't like it at first, but they may come to terms with it over time.



I have one comment. Don't forget that your parents have provided food, shelter, and the other necessities of life for the last twenty years. Be sure and thank them for that.


Thank you all for the advice. I know that the right thing for me to do is move away. I just needed support to work passed the emotional guilt trips and see that I'm not the one who's being unreasonable.

As a mother of three, one of which is moving off to college this year, I would say, "Go".

My theory is that if my child can do something on their own, they should do it. It's how we learn to grow up.

Under that premise, if you can support yourself, and trustworthy friends are going to be living with you....

(provided there isn't another reason other than 'living in sin' as a deterent) you should definately go.

Be confident in your choice and ultimately your parents will have more respect for you.  It is hard for them to see you make choices that they wouldn't make for themselves, so be kind and considerate.  Be responsible so they will have no choice but to be proud of you.  Good Luck!!!

If 'living in sin' is the only reason they would be upset of your departure, then you don't really have reasons to not go. Do it. If you stay just so you don't hurt them anymore, you will probably end up apologising for hurting them with you being an atheist and turning back to your former religion. If you really want to go, go, but do whatever you can to make it easier for them too, after all, even if you don't agree with them when it comes to religion, they still care about you. I assume they do care about you because otherwise you won't have doubts about moving away from them. Go.


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