I really feel that monogamy is a concept of whichever religion you were born into, but if you love and respect your partner, should you remain faithful to only them? I think that if you and your partner can agree on an open relationship, or anything of the sort, that is a wonderful thing, but if your partner isn't "down" with sharing, is it wrong to act on your sexual urges that arise outside of the relationship?
EDIT: I was totally misspelling this word lolz! But I also wanna add to this that I see love and sex having nothing to do with eachother. What is your views on the correllation between the two?
i have read it and agree, we are not wired for monogamy, it is at best a social construct designed by men to make sure their heir gets his shit when he passes on and was a way to in some way assure the fidelity of the woman, while men 'sowed their seed' anywhere they wanted to...
read the book! it is a very good look at the myth of monogamy in humans...
Not true of a few counts. First of all, religion is not monolithic, your claim is like saying all people named Albert created a General Theory of Relativity, when in fact it was just one person named Albert. Though Christianity promotes monogamy (in the face of people like King Solomon), Islam does not. Nor do the indigenous Tibetan Folk Religions including Vajrayana Buddhism (examples of polygamy--polygyny and polyandry respectively) both are practiced extensively in their geographic areas.
Second, monogamy does not exist in most other primates. Though the siamang gibbon is absolutely monogamous, our closest relatives gorillas, chimpanzees and bonobos are not. The large groups in which they live makes up for the need of monogamy (like that seen in some species of birds). Older members of the group all contribute to the care of younger members. This is further bolstered by the long childhoods experienced by great apes making communal living more necessary. Some human societies created the social construct of monogamy as a control mechanism but to speak about it in such general and absolute terms is bordering on fallacious.
For 199,999 years we hung out with our cousins and screwed like bonobos. I would like that plan except for the fact that my cousins are mostly homely.
As a strategy in the context of shorter lifespans than we have today.