Do you think this contributes to the divorce rate? Men are no longer attracted to their wives who have piled on the pounds therefore they cheat. 

In a given two-year period, women who married were 46 percent more likely to gain a large amount of weight than women who remained unmarried. Men were not at increased risk for large weight gains after marriage, the study showed

http://www.livescience.com/15684-woman-pack-pounds-postmarriage-men...

What is the point of marriage if this is true? The attraction is no longer there after weight gain.

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In our shallow American society, where we obsess about our appearance, I suppose the finding is not that surprising. Men should obviously remain single if they can't stand to watch there wives get a little more plump. For the most part both sexes get a little rounder over the years. The person is still the same on the inside despite carrying a little extra luggage.

It will probably become necessary for our vain society to use pre-nupts to ensure men retain there Stepford wives. But then again, what woman in their right mind is going to let someone that shallow slip a ring across their finger?

So you've picked an uncontroversial topic then?

There is so much wrong with this post I don't know where to start. Firstly the study did not mention the number one reason why women put on weight which is pregnancy and breast-feeding. I don't have a source for this but I imagine that having babies is highly correlated with being married. Less so perhaps these days than previously. 

Secondly, the study considered anything 20 pounds or over to be a "large amount of weight". So anything from 20 pounds to 300 pounds is considered in the same bracket. My fiancee has put on 25 pounds or so since we had children and I am just as (if not more) attracted to her as before. If she had put on 200 pounds that may well be a different story.

"What is the point of marriage if this is true? The attraction is no longer there after weight gain."

Really? So nothing about commitment or love or wanting to grow old together or raise a family or anything like that. Instead we reduce marriage to whether or not the two people still fancy each other as much as they did when they first met. Firstly, it's a wretched man who cheats on his wife simply because she has put on 20 pounds. Secondly, the second part of the statement does not apply to everyone. Admittedly, obesity is not an attractive quality but I personally prefer a size 16 to a size 6. Thirdly, if you believe that the attraction level between two people over time will remain constant simply because their weight does then you have a narrow view of relationships.

Yo Simon. Yuz speakin like a beta-male. Yuz should be flying down to the clubz and finding some sweet skinny tail and tapping those unmarried asses bro!

Word up!

I'm not sure I agree, I think the article is WAY too generalized. I don't think "marriage" or "divorce" are what causes weight fluctuation but the "other" circumstances that are surrounding that.

For example: For me I know that I gained weight after my divorce. But it wasn't the "divorce"...it was a combination of other factors: 1. Becoming a single mom and the stress that has come with that. 2. Not being able to afford a gym membership. 3. Being diagnosed with PTSD and the medication I took for about 8 months made me gain weight. 4. Not having a support system (ie. Someone to watch my son while I go pump iron)....5. Feeling unsafe in my old neighborhood to walk alone....I mean none of these independently would have been a problem but I'm just saying that as a whole it was a challenge to stay healthy.

My health suffered during marriage too because I was in an abusive marriage...I think a loss in self esteem contributed more to my weight gain during marriage.

Anyway I was able to work through all of those barriers and am now getting to be in great shape again! But no it has nothing to do with "getting it ready for the next man" and has everything to do with getting back into marathon shape for MYSELF.

That's your story, Belle, and as so often happens with these discussions, women chime in with "not all women are like that, take me for example." I don't know where the ladies get the idea that none of us guys realize that generalizations always have exceptions, but apparently it's something they think we need to be reminded about.

We are not discussing why ALL women gain weight during marriage (while your weight gain, BTW, was apparently AFTER your marriage broke up) but why SO MANY women gain weight while married.

Perhaps the natural state of women is chubby because so many women fight so hard not to be chubby, and then apparently think it's OK to let go once they've walked down the aisle.

RE: I don't know where the ladies get the idea that none of us guys realize that generalizations always have exceptions, but apparently it's something they think we need to be reminded about.

I don't know where the guys get the idea that everything we say is somehow a correction or reminder to something we said as opposed to simply being an opinion or comment, but apparently everything we say seems to be perceived as something about their lack intelligence. Self-centered much?

RE: We are not discussing why ALL women gain weight during marriage (while your weight gain, BTW, was apparently AFTER your marriage broke up) but why SO MANY women gain weight while married.

It seems to me that to be fair, the article is pointing out the difference between men and women's weight gain in relevance to marriage/divorce. If the article states that men tend to gain weight AFTER divorce, why is it not relevant to point out that it is a potentially misleading generalization and that weight gain is not based on marital status but rather due to other stress factors?

Why aren't we discussing men's weight gain/loss issues along with women huh? Why are women the ones who's bodies always have to be scrutinized? Especially since the article discusses men and women? But we here are only discussing the women's weight issues...

How typically male.

Let's talk about it over a gallon tub of Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough icecream :)

I think it's well-known that one of the things women who are in or just out of divorce do is head straight for their apartment's exercise room or the nearest gym.

Why is that?

Because they're getting those toned glutes ready for the next guy.

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