Belle, just give it time and don't worry. You're a good person and you'll attract the right Top Quality person for you in the end.
I mean a good, kind, brave, strong, intelligent, mature, unselfish person like yourself.
I would say you need to spend a very long time getting to know someone to make sure they're not a douche-bag. I think you need to wait rather than act.
Am I right?
I think it's best not to have any expectations of what it should look like, or what form it should take. Maybe you would like to keep each other at arm's length in order to feel comfortable, safe and happy.
I was looking through Lazyboy videos on youtube, and found one that made me think about this discussion. Its a bit corny so I was going to mail it instead of post it but here it is anyway - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v545reoFtM4
Also check out some other lazyboy stuff if you like this, some of their songs seem to indicate a belief in the supernatural or idealist views, but I think some of their stuff is great. check out 'facts of life' and 'underwear goes inside the pants' by them, two of the best in my opinion.
Also on the subject of ideal love, this lady has it: Midori Lei at http://datingadvicefromagirl.com , she's the real thing. She's a conservative Christian, but don't let that put you off. She's as much a freethinker as any of us.
True love is a wonderful thing, and I feel very lucky to have it. I'd prefer it to winning the lottery 1000 times over. Belle, I feel that you and I share many similarities. My sweetheart shares those same similarities. You can see where this is headed. Have faith. Be careful.