Love is patient, love is kind.........wait a minute!

What is healthy love?

No really. I'm asking.

I'm embarking on a journey to better understand what it means to love and be loved. I used to believe 1 Corinthians 13 was it...is it? I mean it's still a GREAT verse. But I think we can do even better than that.

So....in your OWN words, what does love look like, in a healthy sexual, or romantic relationship, and also on a friendship level. Is it altruistic? Is it selfish? Somewhere in between?

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I think that 1 Corinthians 13 says it very well. 

Also - trying to live as long as possible so that I can look after her when she's old and senile. 

Giving away my last 10-bag.

Laughing with joy when I think of her.

Having a dream that she's my left arm. 

Altruistic because of what she does for me, and this never fading. 

hard question, and i don't think there's a one size fits all answer.  Granted there's a lot of people who have put their views of love very eloquently in poems, songs, stage plays and even movies.  For me though, love cant be properly put into words as its a feeling and mind set that renders you incapable of properly stringing a sentence together, but that's just me 

You Irishmen are so romantic and charming! It's unreal.

It's all about "Give & Take."  You'd better give your all and take nothing from it.

What is healthy love? I'm embarking on a journey to better understand what it means to love and be loved.

I recommend a visit to the psychology and wellness sections of your local library, where you'll find many books about love and relationships, with some written for specific audiences (women, divorcees, single parents, etc.). They won't have all the answers (what ever does?) but if you mean to widen your knowledge and perspective about healthy love, there's no better place to start than with books. Take a stack home this weekend. Skim them all, read the ones you like, ignore the rest, and it won't cost a dime.

Once you feel ready to explore healthy relationships first hand, try one of the leading matchmaker websites that use psychological profiling to introduce people. I put a lot of stock in this process, which takes time, patience, and some 'near miss' introductions (which are best to think of as 'practice'). I'm admittedly biased because I met my wife-- the finest woman I've ever known-- on eHarmony.

I LOVE that video clip Gallup! That's awesome :) So true, thank you.

For me, after three marriages: STREACH!

RE: I'm admittedly biased because I met my wife-- the finest woman I've ever known-- on eHarmony.

REALLY!? That is amazing. I never would have guessed you would be an eharmony type, lol.....

REALLY!? That is amazing. I never would have guessed you would be an eharmony type, lol.....

I was skeptical at first, but decided an introduction service made the most sense. My odds of meeting an eligible atheist or agnostic through a random encounter in everyday life were very low, given the statistics. But I met many fine, eligible women on eHarmony. Luckily, I ended up with the best one.

My wife is a medical doctor, former NASA engineer, black belt in karate, licensed pilot, sky diver, world traveler, atheist(!), and the most trustworthy, fun-to-be-with, understanding person I've ever known. She's not always so good at cutting my hair, though. (If you ever meet us, be sure to compliment my trend-setting, asymmetrical locks, or whatever unusual hair style I may be sporting at the time.)

Maybe using eHarmony means you're of a certain type. If it does, what a great type to find yourself among. I figure that, plus the selection criteria (such as atheists only) and a little psychology improves the odds of ending up with the healthy love you were talking about. There's no guarantee, but if you're interested in prospecting, definitely go where the good prospects are.

So did you both already live in the same city/state? Or did one of you move to be together?

Love is nothing more than a chemical reaction in the nice ole brain. It brings you utter ecstasy when things go smooth and suffocating pain when it doesn't. It leads most people to do incredibly stupid pathetic things. And leads others to work hard at maintaining a loving and happy relationship. The only adjective I think that is fitting and universal for love everywhere is: extremely overwhelmingly hard core mega hyper uber INTENSE INTENSE INTENSE. And yeah...its a chemical reaction. Nothing more.

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