I just recently had a falling out with a friend over something i said on twitter of all places. I participated in a silly trending topic. It was called #icantdateyou. I wrote #Icantdateyou if you believe in fairy tales like noahs ark or anything in the bible. my friend reads that and without even talking to me decides to cut me out of his life. his words were "thats the last straw. you've been blacklisted. nice knowing you homie".
backstory. Ive known him for years now. we were always cool, laughing playing xbox. my views are well known in my circle. He was arrested and did a 3 yr bid iirc. I sent his wife money while he was locked up. only one time for $50 but she was in need. he was my friend.
So this happens and just like that he cuts me off. He mentioned to a mutual friend that he loves his god and any attack on god is an attack on him. wha??????? when the hell did he get so righteous? needless to say it upset me. Im beside myself over this.
has anyone had something like this happen? how did you handle it?
I am VERY sorry to hear this Deb.
I completely agree about it being somewhat hypocritical/ironic.
"I'm coping by staying very, very, very busy and filling my life with as much enjoyment and goodness as possible because this life is precious and short and there's no point in letting others ruin it or their religious beliefs trample on our time and happiness in this brief existence. Religion does not equal goodness, kindness, or meaning--it just robs people by mostly closing minds and putting up walls. "
Good for you for staying busy and not dwelling on this. It truly is your mother's loss.
Religion, as we have all seen I'm sure, definitely closes minds and builds some mighty strong walls. ::sigh::
I don't think it's fair to say he made a mistake befriending this person. People change over time. Unfortunately too many people base relationships on the wrong things. It is shallow to not be accepting of other's beliefs/or lack thereof. I respect my theist friends and demand the same in return. If they're intolerant of my views I really don't want to be around them. Narrow-minded people and free thinkers have a tendency to clash it seems....
My friends are accepting of my atheism so I cannot speak much from experiance here. But this friend seems very closed minded and I would go as far as to say that he wasnt a true friend (although this might be a No True Scotsman falacy).
I had something VERY similar to this happen to me.
I said it felt good to cut off this woman with a "Choose Life" license plate via my twitter and one of my associates (I used to call her a friend but eh) threatened to block me.
Personally I could care less.
If you want to block me over my opinions, go ahead and do it. I'm better off without such people in my life.
I try not to have such close-minded people as friends in the first place but I'm not one for having a bunch of "friends" anyway.
I've had people delete me off Facebook because of my opinions.
I'm sorry you feel like you've lost such a good friend.
Thank you all for your kind words. Yes it hurt but my dad always said "those who stop being friends,werent". All it cost me was a silly comment on twitter to get him and his ungrateful wife out of my life. I'll take whatever was good from that "friendship" and move on.
I love how theists believe they have cornered the market on decency but nothing could be farther from truth.
That's horrible. I do think there's a bit of that going on right in my family. I was never too outspoken about being atheist, but recently I'm said a few things on facebook and I've noticed most of my extended family stopped talking and commenting to me. That's all right with me though, they are the most annoying people on the planet. No loss, there.
But a friend....that's got to hurt. Well, there's nothing you can do. The problem is his, and he has to deal with his feelings. Keep the door open. You know, insulting something someone believes in, insults the person. I used to get all up in arms when my husband would insult something I was enjoying on television because I felt that if he thought it was stupid, then he must think I was stupid for enjoying it. That was in my younger days when I actually gave a shit what other people think. Things like that don't bother me anymore. But my point is, he was probably insulted and isn't shutting you off because he is defending god, he's shutting you off because he thinks you think he is stupid.