How are you doing now Belle? Feeling any better? Worse? More or less confused? Closer to "god"?
After reading this, I couldn't help but think about how much it sounded like a "relapse" back into your old ways. The same way that a drug addict might instinctively go for a hit after a traumatic experience. It doesn't mean that maybe, just maybe, they you right all along, and that getting that hit of "faith heroin" is actually a good thing for you. It just means that it is a habit to break and that it won't go away without serious effort. This is something that any Christian-turned-atheist struggles with. You aren't alone in this.
I recently lost two work buddies only eight days apart. One of them died on the operating table during a routine gall bladder surgery and the other fell off a cliff while hiking only eight days later. It wasn't easy to see everyone around me praying and asking god why it happened. I had moments when I thought about "relapsing" and praying right along with them. Then my common sense returned to me and wondered why these people were praying to a god who, doubtful as it is that he even exists, would allow two excellent and respectable people to die for no reason. It only reassured me that I had made the right decision in rejecting such an idea. People die because accidents happen. The surprising thing was that an accidental slip, whether it be the doctor's hand while performing surgery or my buddy's foot on that rock, could cause people all around me to openly wail and moan to their deity had me feeling embarrassed for them. I wasn't going to be the one to go around telling everyone to stop praying because they are all idiots. I like to think that I have more tact than that. My guilty pleasure during that time was seeing some other friends of mine NOT bow their heads in prayer at the memorial ceremonies. There were very few of us, but it was noticeable. There was no disrespect in the room other than our refusal to participate out of peer pressure to their superstitious nonsense.
All of this being said, I am so glad that your kid is okay. Just remember that religious tendencies only come up because we have been force-fed the bullshit for so long that it is automatically what our brains revert back to.
Thanks for sharing!!
I didn't mean to be rude back there, I was just trying to get you to think, so I hope my rough tactics were of some benefit.
I think we should always listen to our feelings because they are there for a reason: to tell us something. What do you think? I find that when I explicitly acknowledge my feelings, they lose their grip on me, as I believe they've done their job at that point.
Thank you for the excellent Jonathan Haidt TED video. It is fascinating that he's saying that anything sacred is bound up in losing yourself in communal activity. This idea is basically the heart of my moral theory. I love the way he presents material, and his explanation of group selection and the free rider problem is very clear. I'm putting a link to this talk on my website.
"So how did I know that splash was my son?" - mothers' intuition is not to be underestimated. I've had a couple of phone calls from my mum when I've been in tight situations.
Intuition is one of those words that has a woo connotation in the minds of a lot of people, like it involves some sort of psychic connection. But I don't think there is anything supernatural about it. Every minute of every day we take in millions of tidbits of information from all our senses. Some of it is conscious, but most of it is subconscious and we don’t even register it on a conscious processing level.
Maybe there was the tiniest yelp a split-second before the splash, a yelp that only a mother could recognize, both as her son and as an indication that something is not right.
Intuition, but not supernatural.
True. There's peripheral vision, and also, it's said that we never forget how someone moves.
The truth is a beautiful thing isn't it?
Wow, Strega. What a powerful concept. That idea is far more freeing than anything I have ever heard of in any religion.