Maria Kang is an admitted fitness freak. A few months ago she put the following image up on her blog. She's involved in fitness competition and probably the image was aimed at other women interested in fitness and health. However, someone started passing the image around and before long it went viral.
Then the negative comments started coming in and she was even accused of being a cyber bully and fat shamer. The following is an excerpt from this article:
“I wanted to inspire people,” she explains, adding that the “What’s your excuse?” part was simply a borrowed, popular phrase that’s been used in various “fitspiration” campaigns. “I wanted to say, ‘I know you think you don’t have time if you have kids. But if I can do it, you can do it, too.’”
Kang, of Sacramento, California, is a former pageant queen and fitness competitor who founded the nonprofit Fitness Without Borders in 2007. She's also a recovering bulimic. Kang says she understands why some people reacted so defensively. “I think people struggle with their weight,” she notes. “When you add on being a mother — and the pressures we face to have it all and be everything, including fit — the expectations are so high. I think some moms saw the picture and just said, ‘This is ridiculous.’” But still, she says, “I felt really frustrated. Being called a bad mother and a bad person definitely hurts.”
Though she first posted the photo to her Facebook page a year ago, Kang noticed it was being shared a lot more recently and that it was generating a swell of negative comments toward her. So she reposted it to her own 72,000-plus followers, tacking on an apology — which, she admits, is really a “non-apology.”
“I'm sorry you took an image and resonated with it in such a negative way. I won't go into details that I struggled with my genetics, had an eating disorder, work full time owning two businesses, have no nanny, am not naturally skinny and do not work as a personal trainer,” she wrote, in part. “What I WILL say is this. What you interpret is not MY fault. It's yours. The first step in owning your life, your body and your destiny is to OWN the thoughts that come out of your own head. I didn't create them. You created them. So if you want to continue ‘hating’ this image, get used to hating many other things for the rest of your life.”
“Those precious little things need their mommy more than they need you to have glamour muscles.”
“Not that I *NEED* an excuse for not working out, but here's mine you self-righteous idiot … fibromyalgia.”
“You are part of the body shaming problem that is going on in North America and other parts of the world.”
“You are a bully with a super inflated sense of your own self.”
That's a small sample, apparently.
A few months ago she put the following image up on her blog.
someone started passing the image around and before long it went viral.
Then the negative comments started coming in
Who's bullying whom here? She uploaded it on her own website/facebook, not shoving it down anybodies throat, and some fat slob with sand in her vagina got offended and shared it with the rest of her friends? If you don't like it, fuck off. I don't go to fat-porn websites just to open their contacts page and complain about how all of their videos contain fat people.
Fat people are one of the most hypocritical groups of people I know. Let's for a moment put aside the fact that too many of them love to play a bogus game of push-the-blame-on-genetics and whatnot. No, not only will they bitch at you for using words like "fat," but they'll try to shame thin women by saying things like "twig" or shame men who are attracted to thin/fit women by saying "only dogs are attracted to bones." Apparently that's not offensive or body-shaming, and totally fine.
The woman uploaded the pic on her own what, facebook? If you don't like it, unlike it, close the browser, and format your computer while you're at it.
I have no sympathy for fat people. Any body type is cool as long as it doesn't inhibit your life. If you can still play with your dog and kids, do your job, and just generally navigate life, you're fine. That's why I don't like words like "overweight." There's no fixed ideal weight. But the moment you become wheelchair bound or bed bound like a bloating stranded jellyfish, or you can't walk up 10 steps of stairs without panting and vacuuming air in and out of that giant gaping wind tunnel you call your mouth, yeah, then it's time for you to accept that you're fat and you should be ashamed because now everybody else has go out of their way to accommodate your ass.
My opinion would've been different if she stood at a street corner with a sign in her hand with the picture on it, laughing at every fat person walking by. But if some asshole just came across it and, let's be honest, got jealous... nah. Screw em. Skip some rope you slob.
So stating a challenge on your own FB and someone else takes that photo and spreads it around this constitutes you as a bully.
Just throwing bullying aruond because it' s the common awareness trend these days..
There is a huge psychological component in obesity. I dated a nurse for a while and we were in a grocery store together when we saw another shopper, a woman, who must have weighed 400 lb. She had passed the morbid obesity threshold a long time ago. My nurse friend muttered to me "You can't maintain that kind of weight on 1200 calories a day." The woman's cart was full to the top mostly with exactly the kind of food she should not have been eating. Apparently she lived on frozen pizza, cookies, and soda.