I think you have a solid grasp on things and as long as you don’t force the issue it should work itself out for the best. That is at least the approach I am taking with my son, he is 5 years old and finishing kindergarten. I am divorced from his mom and he is attending a Christian school right now. Her family is pretty religious but lucky for me they aren’t hard liners or evangelical.
Nothing to deep has come up yet with my son. The only thing I can recall is him once saying to me, Daddy Jesus loves you.” It was kind of out of the blue and I quickly replied, “No he doesn’t. Daddy doesn’t believe in Jesus.” He went back to playing with his Lego and I thought nothing more of it.
I am not going to hide my Atheism from my son. If he asks religious questions I will answer them and give my opinion. I will never tell him what way to think or what to believe. I know from experience, for me I tend to rebel against anything forced. I will teach him how to think critically, to be skeptical and never be afraid to ask questions.
In the end I hope he won’t have to go through 30+ years until he can shed the control of religious belief.
Good luck to you and yours Amy.
It isn’t that easy, for me at least. I am Active Duty Navy and currently deployed to boot. My soon to be X (6 month window in California until it is official) and my son are in a town 4 hours from my homeport. Since she has him with her and her parents I don’t dare start the battle, if that is the right word for it, about religion and a god.
She and her family know I am an Atheist and my views on it, her parents don’t know the level of distain I have for all religions (especially christianity). I also know that forcing ones views on the young rarely works. If my son is anything like me he will rebel against anything pushed or forced upon him. I will always teach him to ask questions and always give my opinion and point of view to him. I will be a shining example of a good moral person because I am a good moral person.
It is my hope that my son grows to be a critical thinker and a skeptic, which should lead to Atheism or at the least Agnostism. I though will not force him to choose what I have in life. I will teach and lead him to seek truth where ever it is.
Also I will be getting him out of that school as soon as I retire from the Navy in 2.5 years. A secular public or private (if I can afford it private) school will do just fine.