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Permalink Reply by Cara Coleen on December 1, 2012 at 2:58pm

How are ya doing since you posted this blog? It seems it was sucked into the blog abyss! I think Annapolis is a little dry as far as atheism goes; I keep looking and finding nothing. There was a group that met at the Unitarian church here, but I never had the opportunity to check it out. My family lives in Texas, but I'd feel similar to you if I did live near them. I don't have the drama here, but I still have no one to talk to about stuff that does NOT involve religion. I mean, no one is cramming it down my throat, but it's safe to assume most are at least "spiritual" and uncomfortable speaking in a way that implies there's no higher power. It's hard to have a real conversation with someone, and get practical advise, when they want to tell you to pray about it or go to a psychic or something!

Oh well. I hope things have gotten easier for you!

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Permalink Reply by deepthought42 on February 12, 2013 at 2:26am

I worked with a few non religious people when I worked at the Borders hereI would say let's meet up sometime but things are worse at home... My sister is out of control. We called the cops to get her admitted for treatment, but they released her after a few hours. I am scared to be here but cannot leave my parents to deal with this alone...

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Permalink Reply by Kairan Nierde on February 14, 2013 at 10:05pm

I'm so sorry to hear things have gotten worse. Can you put a lock on your door? Maybe your sister needs to spend a few nights in a shelter? You should feel safe in your own home! Please stay safe and keep in mind you are not responsible for your sister or your parents.

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Permalink Reply by Simon Paynton on February 15, 2013 at 3:57pm

"My mother is the kind of person who gets angry at anything and tends to blame others for her unhappiness. My 20 year old sister steals any alcohol she can find in the house and had been known to go through our things to find some."

Are these things linked? 

"I cannot help someone who doesn't truly want it."

That's true.  Maybe if you didn't try and help her so much, she would help herself.  Another thing is, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.  Perhaps the best way to help her is to help yourself.  That's when I've been helped the most in life - when other people get their shit together, and either it inspires me or directly helps me.  It sounds like she could do with a good example of how to behave.  Somebody who gets angry at anything and tends to blame others for their unhappiness is not centered or acting like a star or being responsible for themselves. 

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Permalink Reply by Simon Paynton on February 15, 2013 at 3:59pm

Oh yeah.  Bully, too. 

"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you."  (Ovid)

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Permalink Reply by Simon Paynton on February 16, 2013 at 11:39am

Throwing ideas out to you here.  Have you seen this? 

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