"My mother is the kind of person who gets angry at anything and tends to blame others for her unhappiness. My 20 year old sister steals any alcohol she can find in the house and had been known to go through our things to find some."
Are these things linked?
"I cannot help someone who doesn't truly want it."
That's true. Maybe if you didn't try and help her so much, she would help herself. Another thing is, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. Perhaps the best way to help her is to help yourself. That's when I've been helped the most in life - when other people get their shit together, and either it inspires me or directly helps me. It sounds like she could do with a good example of how to behave. Somebody who gets angry at anything and tends to blame others for their unhappiness is not centered or acting like a star or being responsible for themselves.
Oh yeah. Bully, too.
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." (Ovid)
Throwing ideas out to you here. Have you seen this?
No, but that does seem to fit very well. I finally moved out recently, which I am everyday grateful for. I only wish my parents did not have to continue to deal with the drama my sister causes, but I can understand they don't want to give up on her. Perhaps as she gets older, she will come to understand how much they have done for her.
As for me, small doses of my mother's negativity are more bearable knowing I can go home to my quiet apartment.
Work keeps me busy - but I am glad to have a job, so no complaints there. I know that I would never want to move back home.
Maybe now I can meet up with fellow non-believers in the Baltimore area. :)