In my case, the religion issue was settled decades ago. But I can relate in politics. I come from a very conservative area and apparently my Aunt Googled me. At Christmas she mentioned that I had "various political positions" online. She said it with a superior tone. My response was pretty clear, "You should follow me on Facebook!" Which got some giggles. It took the steam out of her sails because she seemed to be of the position that it was shameful or I was hiding. It wasn't confrontational and she didn't have many viable responses that would serve her well.
So if someone were treating me poorly on religion, if I'm catching your drift, my reaction might be similar. Not to confront on the point that they are trying to make, but to point out how they are treating me. "Is this how your religion was advertised to you? Mistreat people free of guilt?" "Do they issue you a gavel with that Bible?" The attacks might continue, but the spotlight on the douche will have been turned on and the only way to turn it back off is to drop the issue. To be fair, there are many atheists whom act this way as well and I may have a greater disdain for them because as a group the somewhat represents me.
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Isn't he great! Yay! I love reading Fred's posts.