Hi folks, I probably won't be saying anything that hasn't been said before but here it goes. I'm 37, born and raised Catholic, forced to attend church until around 16, then Christmas/Easter mass until I moved out at 18. My younger brother and I started a hard time believing what was in the Bible in our early teens, but just kept it to ourselves. I didn't attend church again until my mid 20's when my mother came to visit from out of town and insisted I go, where, ironically, I met my future wife. She was friends with my cousins who were also at church, and we hit it off. She was and still is a Catholic school teacher, and was more devout then than she is now. (I think I rubbed off on her). My disbelief now stems from the overwhelming evidence for evolution, the big bang and so on, and so little sense the Bible makes. I didn't realize how flawed the bible was until I watched the movie Zeitgeist a few years ago. This really opened my eyes and mind, and affirmed my suspicions and doubts.
We have a 5 year old daughter, and I am finding it very hard to talk to her about God. She goes to public school, but is being taught by her grandmother and (more or less) her mother that "God created everything". Richard Dawkins claims children as young as 5 should be taught evolution, but I don't think she'd understand. My wife wants her to know both sides of the story and to give her a choice. I just try to keep my mouth shut.
Another issue I have is my mother is a die hard church going Bible thumper, and as far as she knows my brother and I still believe. I don't think she would understand us being Atheist and it would break her heart. While I am not hiding my Atheism on Facebook, I steer clear of religion when around her. (thankfully she's not on FB).
That's my story and I'm sticking to it. I just found this site, and while I don't know how much I'll be participating, I am finding lots of great information and "fuel for the fire".
Welcome to TA!!
Your life sounds really close to mine 10 years ago. I was an atheist and my now ex-wife and her mother were raising my then 4 and 6 year old girls to be Catholic. Fortunately the girl’s mother does believe evolution and let me teach the girls evolution and never interfered with their secular education.
Just recently I started discussing religion with both of my girls. I am very happy with what I have found out. My 16 year old can be best described as an agnostic. My 14 year old is an atheist. She actually gives me a hard time about letting her mother make her go to Sunday school when she was young. When I asked her why she was an atheist she had a one word reply science. We actually have discussions about what some of the other students in her science and history class have said in objection to what they are being taught based on religious grounds. She is amazed at some of the things they think especially that nothing could have happened more than 6000 years ago.
I told this story to let you know it can turn out alright. Just make sure to keep exposing your child to science, critical thinking and logic.