First of all: Hey, I'm Mike. This is my first post on this website. After being agnostic for many years having not given religion much thought, I recently decided to live my life as an atheist - and I feel good about it. I was really thinking hard on it for awhile and it occupied my thoughts at all times. Now that I'm an atheist, I feel quite liberated. But to be honest, all my Christian friends still think I'm agnostic and I'm hesitant to tell them the truth.
Hearing some opinions on this situation is what brought me to this website. Thanks in advance for any feedback.
Last summer, I met this Christian girl and we quickly became best friends. We started talking about religion one day and she asked me to go to church with her. At this point I was still agnostic (but still leaning towards atheism). I decided to go because I was curious about it. I saw things that really bugged me and she would ask me what I thought as we were leaving each time. Well, I didn't blow up on her but I was frustrated and I didn't shy away from telling her.
Then for months I barely saw her or talked to her. I tried making plans with her but she wouldn't see me. And the times I had seen her since I avoided talking about her faith. I've been really trying to mend our friendship though - I really do appreciate the friendship we... used to share, at least.
I invited her out last night to a big show in my city (I had free tickets) and she did come, to my surprise. She tagged me in a Facebook 'places' post later that night. This guy (who I think was her pastor at one point) comments on the post "Mike?" and later "THE Mike?"...
So I guess she was talking to him about me, but fine, I understand - it bothered her and she had questions about the things I said (I assume).
But I wonder if he told her not to hang out with me any more... Do you really think someone would do that? That's so... wrong... so... evil. It makes me so sick thinking about it. It makes me even more sick that someone I called a friend would follow an order to avoid me from someone like that without question.
What do you think? Any similar experiences?
If I had a friend who avoided me for being an Atheist, I would probably do one last thing before giving up entirely. I would tell her that you respect her as a person and you don't see the need to argue or even bring up the fact that you believe in two different things. Tell her you miss spending time with her, and that what you believe has nothing to do with your friendship, and it shouldn't ever, because Atheists and Christians have gotten married before, and if those people can set aside their beliefs for love, why can't two friends set aside their differing beliefs for friendship? If she can't accept you, then forget it. If she don't care, then there is no need to care either. As much as it sucks, as long as you two can make a clean friendship break, you will be able to move on.
not any friends, but one coworker. I REALLY try not to bash anyone about their religion - even if they like to talk about it once in a while, but I couldn't help myself this one time.
I had known she was some sort of monotheist before hand. fine, whatever. But somehow she got on the topic of her deeper beliefs, and she said she considered herself "Both jewish and christian". I thought she must have been joking, so I laughed awkwardly just trying to avoid falling further into the discussion.
but i quickly saw she wasn't joking. she then asked why i don't respect her beliefs. Despite my better judgement, i thought "well, she DID ask..." She could not understand how being Jewish and Christian are mutually exclusive. Her best defense was, "Jesus was a jew, so I am too". What really pissed her off was when I asked how she could believe in something so whole-heartedly whilst lacking a fundamental understanding about what it means to be either christian or jewish.
Then of course she asked what faith I was, and I told her I have no religious faith. Therefore (of course), in her opinion, I had no right to critique her beliefs. I just "don't understand".
"Fine by me. I guess in the end it's no more idiotic than picking one or the other. Except you have to deal with synagogues on sabbath AND church on Sunday..."
My best friend and I constantly argue about my lack of faith. He honestly doesn't believe that a moral compass can exist without a celestial authority.
This boy at school told me that I had missed chapel service, so I said "phew, so I don't have to take part in that indoctrination session" or something along those lines, (i thought he was an atheist) and he stood up and said "Well it appears I'm already indoctrinated", very sarcastically, and walked off.
I tried to apologise and I haven't seen him since, it was on Friday though, I guess, in England, people get a lot of stick for being religious in places like my school and he didn't appreciate it...