I'm off to my neice's christening this Sunday. This may raise awkward questions about why my daughter, who's eight months older, hasn't been christened. Quite a few of my family are religious and involved and I am not officially "out" to them.
My response to questions we have had has been, "No we aren't getting her christened" and no-one has then asked why. None of my family have actually asked though, so I'm slightly dreading the prospect.
I fully intend to join in with the hymns etc, but my main worry is probably not going up for communion. That will speak louder than words. Anyone had a similar experience?
Maybe you can have a ceremony at home and splatter spaghetti sauce on her face in honor of the FSM?
Kidding aside for a moment, I can see the dilemma. Honesty is usually the best policy in all matters. Perhaps if there is a way you can avoid the subject for now without lying? Some canned response that will deflect the questions?
If your family is Catholic, I think you can get out of it by saying "I haven't been to confession". This, while sneaky, would not be a lie.
My wife's family is Catholic, and they never go to confession but always take communion, but strictly I don't think they are supposed to.
If I'm at church with them, they "officially" think I don't go up because I'm Quaker (how I was raised). However, I suspect that they suspect I'm an atheist but they don't want to go there because it's a scary topic. Which is fine with me, I have no desire to fight with the in-laws.
Or, if "not coming out" is a higher priority than "not taking part in superstitious rituals", what's the big deal about eating a cracker?
No, we're from the "other side" of Norn Iron. Which incidentally is one of the biggest reasons that I'm off religion. That's a whole other debate though!
It's possible that my little one won't last the ceremony without needing to go outside, but I recognise that that would be the coward's escape. I bet we'll be sat at the front as well.