Giving up on Atheism - Atheism promotes promiscuity and is bad for society

I am an atheist/ agnostic but after careful thinking, I've decided that perhaps virulently promoting atheism (as this community is doing) isn't really good for society. Please don't get offended, just read my arguments below calmly and rationally. If you can argue that I am wrong, I will listen to those arguments and change my opinion.

Note 1: I am using science in all my arguments, not religion.Not all my links point to scientific studies, but I'm sure you could find relevant evolutionary psychology papers if you googled for it.

Note 2: Please don't take offense, I'm not a sexist or a misogynist. I am trying hard to be as unemotional as possible in my arguments.

Argument 1: Polygamy is bad for society

What percentage of our (pre-civilizational/ barbaric) ancestors are males? The answer is not 50%. As evolutionary psychology points out, 80% of our female ancestors managed to reproduce but only 40% of our male ancestors did so. (Link: http://www.psy.fsu.edu/~baumeistertice/goodaboutmen.htm). Simply put, in barbaric societies, males were the high-risk high-reward sex whereas females were the low-risk low-reward sex.

Why? 

Males are genetically polygynous (interested in sex with as many women as possible - this makes sense as men can produce millions of sperm every day and have a low reproductive cost)

Females are naturally hypergamous (interested in only one man but the best; the top 'alpha' man - this makes sense as a female produces one egg per month and has a high reproductive cost due to pregnancy and child birth).

When sexuality is uncontrolled, the combination of male polygyny and female hypergamy results in polygamy a.k.a harems (one man having sex & children with multiple women).

The ones who suffer are the beta males - the ones who have been sexually selected out. They typically become violent and don't contribute to society. There is an argument to be made that the Taliban practices polygamy and this is the source of violent behavior of terrorists from that part of the world. (Link: http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200706/ten-politically-inco...)

When promiscuity is controlled through strictly enforced monogamy, every man gets a wife. This reduces violent behavior and unlocks the productive capacity in males. I don't have the link available but a man who is already married or believes that he will marry in the future will be 4x productive as an unmarried man who does not believe that he will ever marry (e.g.) Japanese grass-eaters ostracized by an increasingly promiscuous Japan (Link: http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2009/dec/27/japan-grass-eaters-sala...)

Alpha men don't significantly contribute to society - they are not scientific geniuses or hard workers. They are typically physically aggressive men. Contrary to feminist dogma, physically dominant men (even dominant to the point of abusive) are attractive to women because they exhibit alpha tendencies - The Dark Triad of Narcissism, Machiavellianism and Psychopathy.

Alpha men understand their higher attractiveness (compared to betas) and adopt a pump-and-dump sexual attitude. They have many sexual partners but don't bother helping with raising their young; some of their young will die due to lack of resources but they make up for it in numbers.

Betas adopt a nourish-and-protect sexual attitude. They have only one sexual partner, whom they win by proving their love and commitment. Then they have children with only this partner, but provide resources and protection to ensure their children grow up successfully.

Monogamy is the cornerstone of civilization. See the Moralia versus Libertalia argument (Link: http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2011/10/14/relationshipstrategies/how...). In a monogamous society, with greater male economic participation and lesser violence, prosperity, rule of law and art flourish.

Argument 2: Promiscuity naturally leads to beta ostracism and harms society

Promiscuity - Defn: Any form of sex outside of monogamous marriage (including exclusive relationships)

Non-exclusive relationships (polyamorous relationships) are almost always polygamous (one alpha man with many women). This results in many beta men losing out.

Exclusive relationships also result in beta men losing out - Why? If enough alpha men are not available, hypergamous females would rather not enter into any relationship at all rather than be with beta men - "The Where have all the good men gone?" tirade from many women in modern promiscuous culture.

Promiscuity is the leading cause of single motherhood. Many women will rather have children with alpha men (who will later abandon them) rather than with good beta providers (whom they find dull and boring).

The social effects of unleashed promiscuity are enormous - 40% out of wedlock births, single motherhood and increased Govt debt/ taxation to support single motherhood by the State which steps in to replace the father.

Single motherhood produces children 2 to 10 times more likely to suffer from:

  • substance abuse
  • truancy
  • health problems
  • being abused
  • behavioral problems and personality disorders
  • criminal behavior
  • gang activity
  • suicide and running away
  • dropping out at all levels of education
  • incarceration as youths and adults
  • sexually transmitted diseases
  • having children outside of relationships
  • becoming teenage parents

(Link: http://owningyourshit.blogspot.com/2012/03/transcript-of-fempocalyp...)

Argument 3: Atheism promotes promiscuity (Edit: by being silent about it)

I am not saying that atheism caused promiscuity (that happened in the 60s due to a variety of other reasons including feminism) but atheism has played a role in the rise of moral relativism, especially with respect to promiscuity.

The Golden Rule is perhaps the first tenet of religious morality but it is not the only one. The second most important tenet of religious morality is monogamy.

I have seen many arguments about how atheists are equally moral (if not more so) than religious people. In all these arguments, people assume that morality = Golden Rule.

Based on my personal experiences, many atheists seem to think that:

Morality = the Golden Rule

Promiscuity = personal freedom (i.e.) promiscuity is acceptable behavior that the Church restricts because the Church is old and stupid. Many atheists don't seem to realize the far reaching social effects of promiscuity.

This moral relativism on promiscuity is obvious even in this site. For example http://www.thinkatheist.com/forum/topics/atheists-are-not-moral-peo... does not deal with promiscuity at all. http://www.thinkatheist.com/forum/topics/what-is-your-stance-on-mar... has answers from many atheists clearly exhibiting moral relativism on the subject of promiscuity.

[Edit: The majority of your arguments were against this. I can understand why this may look like a strawman argument. Let me clarify:

There is a strong correlation between divorce risk and low IQ. There is also a strong correlation between high IQ and atheism (giving you folks a compliment, take it :) ).

Atheism as a movement, originated primarily amongst high IQ society. But it has now gone mainstream and is growing fast, scarily fast almost. As Uncle Ben put it, "with great power comes great responsibility". But Atheism does not seem to be taking up that responsibility from the Church. Yes, the Church is broken and old and corrupt and its practitioners are bigots and hypocrites. But, it is still the only thing out there taking a stand against promiscuity. Atheists seem to walk away from the responsibility of condemning promiscuity and most Atheists promote sexual freedom.

Morality naturally comes to Atheists because they are high-IQ individuals who are better able to visualize the impact of their life choices in the future. But, as atheism goes mainstream and the Church dies out, what happens to all the voices condemning promiscuous behavior?

We are not more evolved now in anyway than we were in the past. We are, still at our core, apes struggling to build great civilizations. We all (especially low IQ individuals) need moral guidance to help us in this struggle, to make better life choices.

Can you point links to me about prominent Atheists condemning promiscuity? Is the Atheist movement willing to take up the mantle of promoting social morality from the Church after slaying it? ]

[Edit 2: I am not a troll, I've just been super busy last few days, I will have more time this weekend to reply to some comments below. The essential thing I am trying to say is that religion is not pure evil, and we should not look at it in terms of black and white.

There are definitely good things about religion. There is a very interesting theory that religions also evolve over time and the most popular religions are the most useful ones to society, and they became popular precisely because they were an advantage to societies that adopted them. For example, societies with religions that promoted monogamy were almost always more successful in combat over societies that had religions that did not emphasize monogamy. The reason is because in societies that practiced monogamy, soldiers had a genetic stake in survival of that society (they had their own children to protect). Rome fell because of polygamy - the top politicians had harems and orgies and monopolized the women, resulting in loss of morale amongst troops who did not get the chance to be fathers. Rome was increasingly forced to rely on mercenaries rather than patriotic troops to protect her. After the treasury ran out, Rome collapsed because disenfranchised beta males, who had no genetic stake in Rome, simply walked off and allowed the barbarians to invade.

My point of view has always been "What is best for society?", and not "What is true?". Atheism is the correct working hypothesis because there is no proof for God and we have to use Occam's razor at all times. I don't see any downside consequences of high IQ people discovering/ discussing Atheism. But, we have a moral obligation (as the high IQ elites in our society) to do what's best for society. Imagine a ghetto filled with the poorest, uneducated people in our society. We have to make the decisions that will benefit them.

I don't really have a problem with Atheism, but I have significant issues with the Atheist Movement. For instance, take the advertisement "There is no God, Relax". This advertisement is targeted at people who have made bad choices in their life and have been sexually irresponsible. They are probably feeling guilty about these choices and the Atheist Movement is offering them an easy way out. It tells them "There is no Hell or Heaven, so relax and continue making bad choices". In reality, there is no hell or heaven, but there are societal consequences of your choices. In reality, guilt is often a very useful biological mechanism for correcting bad behavior, but Atheism is offering them a way to rationalize away their guilt so that they can continue making bad choices. I am speaking about this from personal experience, I have known people who commit adultery and rationalize their guilt because they think that the concept of 'sin' is meaningless as there is no God.

Also, to all people accusing me of being a sexist and having double standards, I am not asking for double standards from men and women; I am demanding high standards of expected social morality from both sexes. How is that sexist in any way?]

Summary

I am going to judge the merit of a social construct on the basis of its usefulness, not on the basis of its truthfulness. I will only promote an idea to society only if I am convinced it will help society.

If the Traditional Conservative Church (not the Modern version that tolerates no-fault divorce) is useful to society as an institution that encourages monogamy, I would rather have that than Atheism.

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Because we are different species with different biological make-ups, different social structures and different selection factors?  That doesn't necessarily mean that we are different in this instance, but it doesn't entirely make sense to assume we are the same either.

Besides, even if a clear alpha/ beta structure existed in humans, a preference for alphas would not exclude acceptance of betas.

i agree with your qualification of the clear alpha/beta structure here Kris.. that is the essense of my points but i was not sure how to define them!

 

thanks

Oh, so human evolution benefits from rewarding betas over alphas? How does that work?

Well, no matter. Alpha typically trumps beta. Maybe not every time but certainly much of the time.

A female who prefers beta males is most likely a beta female who doesn't think she deserves much better or (probably rightly) assumes she wouldn't win the alpha male anyway, and so settles for less than the best.

I'm seeing a lot of discussion of human polyamorous behavior based an evolutionary imperative to breed, and I don't disagree that it exists and is of significant influence, but I've seen no one mention the psychological aspects of such behavior, in many cases, that of low self exteem, such as the man who finds self-worth he bases on how many notches he can put on his bed post, or the girl who equates being desired sexually, with acceptance, and spends an inordinate amount of time looking for Mr. Goodbar.

Besides, even if a clear alpha/ beta structure existed in humans, a preference for alphas would not exclude acceptance of betas.

That's a massive 'if'.  Debating the properties of alphas in humans feels a lot like debating how Santa Clause manages to get all those gifts to all those children in just one night.

The term 'alphas' seems to refer to an assumption that individuals with 'better' genetics adapted to a present environment, should bred more freguently than individuals classed as 'betas'. Who or what determines 'better'? Violence of alphas on Betas? Racial or phenotype discrimination? Religious affiliation? Hair color? Height? Intelligence? Preference for fatty food or light beer? The whole question/issue seems based upon some eugenics program, covert or overt.

Privilaged or not. People can define themselves as 'alphas', build some self serving model of discrimination, and in a few generations discover  that their assumed 'better' puts them in a class with a monoculture of wheat, that is subject to a new strain of rust that decimates the crop!

It is better to have a mixed culture, each with slightly different genetic endowments, so we might  not lose the whole crop. What ever happens to the 'human' population, we have a come back built in.

In my readings of genetics, it seems clear that adaptation/fit is a moving target. Pretending that the environment is stable, commits us to a faith that might be even less realistic than our theist counterparts.     

As I operate in this world, I have had dear bright and not so bright friends. Each has had their own contribution to make and have offered me and others insights that has been worth appreciating.     

@James - RE: the alpha/beta discussion

I'm not addressing this particularly to you, but to anyone who has expressed an opinion regarding the controversy, but you asked the question, "Who or what determines 'better'?" I propose that it's not an issue that, "People can define themselves as 'alphas,'" - not an issue of whether or not the alpha defines himself as such, but rather the female who makes the decision, and whether that decision is a related to instinct or learned behavior, or a combination of both, is the subject for another discussion, my only assertion is that the decision to run away or toward, generally rests with the female.

So females are better at determining some 'alpha' standing? In my experience many women focus on economic measures to determine if a male is worth bonding with, but not all. One's economic standing can be fleeting and consist of gains that are ill gotten. Given our present economy, and if our recovery is stunted, will such a measure survive?

Part of the reason I am pursueing this is that many of our measures of fitness in our present culture, assume some economic class standing. Since economic issues are mostly human contrived, should be considered valid for mating purposes? Other measures might develope over time.

No James, I'm not saying females are better at determining it, that would imply a competition - I'm saying that they define it.

RE: "One's economic standing can be fleeting and consist of gains that are ill gotten." Do you really think that Pat Nixon - wife of the man who at one time, was the most powerful man in the world - cared whether or not Tricky Dicky was a crook? At that point in time, he was THE alpha male, and that's all that mattered.

How often do women find themselves attracted to "bad boys" (alpha males), yet wind up marrying "good guys' (beta males)? The men may realize what they have, and exaggerate it, but women set the standard.

Alpha male usually refers to hierarchy. Measures like 'bad boys' and women's attractions don't seem all that definitive. Seems more like stereotyping.

I guess you'd have to ask the women who are attracted to them if it seems "more like stereotyping."

A lot of thinking is stereotyping. Isn't "stereotype" just a synonym for "concept" most of the time. Think about it. "Stereotyping" is just a different way of forming and applying generalizations, which is how we actually do most of our thinking. In other words, most of our thinking, especially that involving predicting the actions or prospects of others IS stereotyping. If you took stereotyping out of our thinking, we'd be intellectually paralyzed and unable to make decisions.

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