Too picky? Maybe I'm just very unlucky..
I live in Central Kentucky.. The bible belt is a terrible place for Atheist dating.. but my most recent dating folly sounds like something out of a badly written movie..
The last "girl" I tried to date wouldn't date me because I was an atheist, she was a christian (pentecostal).. but she would have had sex with me the second time I met her.. After turning her down.. I found out she failed to mention her boyfriend at the time and the other guy that she was sleeping with on a regular basis who I found out about at a party.. (though i kinda guessed before hand)
But seriously though.. I'm an atheist.. I'm not an immoral sex fiend.. I actually want to make some sort of connection with another living person..
Because every guy I've met can't stand that my mouth talks more than my tits show.
Seriously, that's about what it is. I'm in a relationship of convenience right now, my biggest problem with him is just....he says little things, all the time, and feels the need to verbally berate the small things I do like the type of pen I choose to use(I'm a writer) or the fact that I hate driving, and when I do--I'm bad at it, of course, he's never offered to teach me or help me get better. He just complains all the time--but whatever, it's better than grocery shopping alone and having guys block the aisle and ask me "ARE YOU HAPPY?".
Any other guy has been similarly creepy, disgusting, perverted within the first 10 minutes of talking(seriously, wait at least until the 7th conversation to bring up your porn preferences, I don't mind talking about them, and I know you're excited to be talking to a girl....but...waiting won't kill you, I want to know you before the intimacy comes up), or perhaps the worst, downright stupid at turning me down when I show interest in getting to know him. I will often say "I want to talk to you more" to guys, and this isn't me going "OMG SEXYTIMES PLZ", this is me, being interested in him as a person. I don't really care about sex. It could never happen, for all I care, what I care about is how good at conversation he is, and how well we can talk with one another about various things. I've gotten replies to this with everything from "I can't answer that." to "You're too shallow for me." to "I'm seeing someone"(he wasn't) to "I'm not dating right now."(the next day he was, a 17-year-old).
It could also be gee, that every bully who's ever wanted to see me hang myself(if I could find a strong enough rope) was right, and I am just butt-ugly, like they said, and you know, deserve the creepers that come my way, which is what a lot of guys have ended up saying--that I'm too picky, that I'm being a bitch. Newsflash: I'm not, guys are. Yeah I'm fat but I've had plenty of larger dudes turn me down because they're waiting for Mrs. Jessica-Alba-Impersonator to land in their lap and start giving them a blowjob.
Yeah, I'm bitter--but I have every right to be with the track record I've got--I ask guys out, I take the first step, I make it easy, but you know what? I should look like Megan Fox as well. Personality and brains don't cut it in the singles market, somehow.
* Too picky?
* Too shy and introverted?
* Hate the bar scene, but don't know where to meet up with someone?
I'm only 17 so I havent really started dating yet.
Just an open question: Would you guys here recommend dating only other atheists? Does dating a theistic become problematic and when should you talk about your religious views or lack of?