I do have a child. A 15 year old. She will begin University this coming Autumn. I am done with babies. I teach gifted children all day though. They range in age from 5 to 16 and they are profoundly gifted so it is in NO WAY any type of regular school type deal. Youre right. I am too nice. Its a flaw and magnificent all at once. I dont want to be your ideal woman in any way.. I was just positing that all the things you want a woman to be and do for herself... was very ironic because thats how I operate my life and the result (whether I am too nice or not) is something you call a middle aged soccer mom. It was funny.
It was more about the fact that from the limited exchange we've had so far I couldn't bring myself to rationally agree with most of what you've said. It's great you teach smart kids I guess but nowadays every parent thinks their kids are a prodigy. I'm not sure if there's an ideal woman, unless I find someone who's as, in your words, miserable as I am. Otherwise a lone death it is, oh well. Integrity is worth it. Besides there are always prostitutes. They're cheaper than a relationship too!
Funny thing that. I dont "get turned down at the bar" (I dont go to the bar but I get your point). I dont get the look of worry and confusion until I start talking about Physics or some such. On the other hand, I dont want to date a guy that cannot keep up with me anyway, so I suppose it is all for the best. On another note, there are also men who CANNOT keep up, but will follow me around even though I have quite clearly expressed my distaste for them. Psychology is such an interesting topic.
I notice you didn't number these, but this pretty much says it all --
* I'm too stupid, ugly, and insensitive, so nobody likes me?"
?? uhmm No I am not. Just feeling angry are you?
Uh, no, but you might be, since i was referring to myself, and your first assumption, was that I was referring to you --
my first assumption was that I had said something to piss you off royally and no idea what it was.
In a year and a half on the board, I've gotten pissed off only once, when a poster was being falsely accused of being a theist - if I can tolerate Unseen for that long without getting really pissed off, I can't imagine anything you could say that would do it --
Sorry for the misunderstanding.
Sounds oddly familiar to myself...
I can honestly say I am single because of my own character and background.
I was raised by a single individual who was not a biological parent, and I dont come from a family oriented unit, as a result I developed into a loner. I am not drawn to nor interested in families.
I would have to find someone with a similar history to be compatible with.
That is not easy.
MM, you don't HAVE to follow the pattern you were raised under, you can break out and be whoever or whatever you want.
I feel you. I actually have a similar story. I don't have a great support system. I was a first born. To parents who were both too young, too selfish (both babies of their families) Then they separated and sort of left us to fend for ourselves. Its not easy to form relationships as an adults when you didn't have someone to sort of instill those social qualities in you that everyone else seems to have..