I have always felt compelled to attend the memorial service of friends and family that held a place in my heart. I don't particularly like it but I feel the compulsion to show my respects for the dearly departed. In the past few years I have had individuals in my own family who passed away and I chose not to attend their service. To the great chagrin of the still living members of my family. My reason for not attending- I did not respect the person and what they stood for. Is this a valid excuse to be a no show? Unfortunately my decision has created what looks to be a permanent rift in my relationship with certain members of my family. 'To thine own self' be true has always been a tenet I have tried to follow. Listening to a memorial service about someone who you have good reason to not respect seems to fly in the face of being true to oneself. Is this a selfish attitude?
Whem my father died, I didn't go. I went to see him a few days before instead. I'm sure that meant way more to him. The only funeral I have been to was for someone I didn't know/care about. I was there solely for my wife's benefit. She felt she needed to go. It was extremely uncomfortable sitting still, not saying anything while various ppl preached JW crazyness.