You absolutely need a criminal defense attorney. In most states a drunken woman is unable to give consent and therefore a male partner can be charged with assault. In most states the defense that the woman actively participated in the sexual activity, even encouraged it is NOT a defense. You may find this discriminatory, but it is the norm. You need to know that unlawful sexual contact is not always associated with violence. If the woman is very young, mentally challenged, or intoxicated the law assumes no consent. If afterwards she charges the male with assault, the defense is NOT a walk in the park.