The idea that there is a perfect match out there for everyone seems to be nonsense to me. Where is the evidence for this? And even if it were true that doesn't necessarily mean you will find that person. Maybe they are on the other side of the world, maybe they haven't been born yet or maybe they are dead - who knows. In the end we can settle for and love a person, but it's often far from a perfect soulmate.
And another thing -- when somone says "you will definitely meet someone eventually" or "there is someone out there for everyone." How do they know this? Are they psychic? The bottom line is this: maybe you won't meet your match - ever! This is a very real possibility, it may seem depressing but it is true, and I'd take a cold reality over a comforting delusion anyday.
Preparation is great. True, my sense of humor would be the main attraction, not my meager estate.
Ha,Ha,Ha - absolutely.
Allow me to translate, for the Spanish speakers in our audience: "Ja, Ja, Ja - absolutemente."
If your sense of humor is your main attraction, that doesn't say a lot about the rest. Forget the magnifying glass - we're talking microscope here --
The really smart men know it is all about the sense of humour, even if one does need a magnifying glass, and if the sense of humour doesn't work - flick.
RE: "But there can be mindmates or twin brains." - A mindmate I could understand, a twin brain, I could not, as it would be like living with a clone of myself, a second body in my house, but only the one mind, no variety, no diversity, knowing what the other wishes to say before she says it, because it's exactly what I would say myself under the same circumstances. Why would I ever ask her a question, when I already know what the answer will be? I can certainly see where such a situation would reinforce my belief in myself, as no one who thinks exactly as I do, would ever disagree with me.
In a previous relationship, with a woman of a similar, but different mindset, I learned to try foods I would never have previously considered eating, enjoyed cultural and recreational experiences, as did she, that neither of us would have known, had we thought exactly alike.
A wise man once said, "The beauty of life lies in its infinite diversity." Much of the beauty of snowflakes lies in the fact that no two are exactly alike. I cannot imagine a life devoid of pleasant surprises.
"knowing what the other wishes to say before she says it, because it's exactly what I would say myself under the same circumstances."
This is my dream, to experience the joy of consent, the bliss of agreement. I am so sick and tired of a world of religious people, woo-woo believers, breeders, capitalists and so on. I am tired of the mental ditch between them and me. I want to find someone, who is on the same side of all the ditches.
To find someone, who perceives my brain as a near clone of his would mean happiness for me. As there cannot be a full clone, any near clone at my age of 63 would still mean many differences to cope with.
The most boring for me is to be annoyed again and again with the same irrational nonsense of christian and woo-woo beliefs. Once I have discarded something as worthless nonsense not worth bothering about, I do not ever want to hear it again. There is no god for me. Period. To hear people's claims about a god is so boring. But to visit a religious spectacle like Lourdes with a fellow atheist and to share the hilarious laughter is joy. What a drag to visit Lourdes with a believer and censor myself to avoid hurting feelings.
RE: "to visit a religious spectacle like Lourdes with a fellow atheist and to share the hilarious laughter is joy."
I can't imagine laughing at ignorant people with debilitating diseases who labor under the false hope that they may expect a miraculous restoration to health - to me, that would be sadistic, adding insult to injury.