The idea that there is a perfect match out there for everyone seems to be nonsense to me. Where is the evidence for this? And even if it were true that doesn't necessarily mean you will find that person. Maybe they are on the other side of the world, maybe they haven't been born yet or maybe they are dead - who knows. In the end we can settle for and love a person, but it's often far from a perfect soulmate.
And another thing -- when somone says "you will definitely meet someone eventually" or "there is someone out there for everyone." How do they know this? Are they psychic? The bottom line is this: maybe you won't meet your match - ever! This is a very real possibility, it may seem depressing but it is true, and I'd take a cold reality over a comforting delusion anyday.
Agreed, I always press "within 5 miles of present location" (sad but true)
I learned a phrase in college from a sociologist friend which the word "propinquity" brought to mind: "Propinquity breeds special relationships."
Yes, and we've been breeding them for thousands of years, to suit our desires! I don't mean to make that sound selfish, because it all started out with some animals wanting to be around us, first. And it's obvious (to me) that most of them actually like and love us now, and are happy creatures.
Were we talking about pets? I'm confused.
Whoops, no, it was me. Somehow I mixed up branches or replies. I may delete this branch and put the reply where it should fit better.
RE: "I'm confused."
Actually, I can see that as your epitaph --
I second that notion!!
The succinctness of your statement is only matched by it's accuracy. :)
I don't know about "soulmates", but I think there is a perfect person for everyone. Now I'm certainly not a psychic, but I do know that a great relationship can be built with anyone if you're willing to work at it. One of my school teachers used to tell me to just find someone that doesn't drive you crazy, find someone that you can stand to be around all the time, and happiness will find you.
Right....because that was the point of my comment. This is why I don't get on here any more, TA's filled with ignorant young atheists looking to pick fights over nothing. Thanks for proving the stereotype.
Dylan, what's going on brother - I'm sensing some high anxiety and I'm one of the old guys...anything we can help you with?
i can't speak for anyone but myself, but there is no evidence of any fate beyond your death. what happens between your birth and your death is (for the most part) up to you. chances are you will not be in charge of how you depart your life.
my opinion is that there are many people that you can enter into a relationship with that will last for the majority of your life.
the line about "you will meet someone eventually" is said as some kind of consolation after a break up or just not having someone special in your life. you can make it a mission to find someone at the expense of other activities. some people want spontaneity rather than a planned encounter. it's just a matter of chance or deliberate action: your choice.
i think it's a mistake to end a relationship because you don't think this person is your "soulmate." no such thing. soulmates, plural, perhaps. in as much as you can get along with a great number of people. enjoy the ride, and stop pining for an imaginary relationship free of problems.
it's all about the journey not the destination.