Today American children have more protection against physical abuse than ever before. Parents are not allowed to beat their children or leave serious injuries during punishment. And teachers are no longer allowed to use paddles, swiches, or ruler to discipline children.
However.. I fall into a camp of people demanding that the current laws are NOT enough. There is a form of abuse that can do even more long-lasting damage than physical.... psychological abuse. PS... I will not judge you if you disagree with my statements... but lets NOT turn this forum into a flame war. Please be professional everyone.
Psychological abuse includes emotional abuse, verbal abuse, and physical abuse that serves to humiliate rather than leave real physical damage.
Emotional abuse includes manipulation, guilt trips, implying or telling the child that they are evil or bad [not just that what they did was bad, but that they are a bad-natured child], telling a child they should be more like "so-and-so's" kids, humiliating a child to gain control, threatening a child with severe physical or emotional abuse that you don't plan to carry out to scare them and "keep them in line." An example of this was experienced by a friend of mine. "If you don't get your room cleaned up, you will sleep in the basement with the spiders." This was a direct malicious attack because the parent KNEW that my friend was aracniphobic and the basement was unfinished and not lacking in spiders.
Verbal abuse includes calling your child swear words or words meant to demean and lower self esteem:
girls - bitch, whore, slut, witch, hag, porker [male or female], fatass [male or female], etc.
Boys - sissy, candyass, son of a bitch [insulting to the mother as well], fag/ faggot, dick, etc.
Physical EMOTIONAL abuse includes:
Slapping, Spanking, Paddling, Using a Belt on Buttocks, slaping buttocks, hitting with newspaper, throwing objects at child, etc.
I have not had a child myself but I have wittnessed the struggles my parents went through to raise children, so I know that raising children is hard... but I think that that does NOT justify behavior like the outlined above. I personally want these behaviors to be outlawed... starting with corporal punishment [physical emotional abuse].
What do you guys think?
I know next to nothing about bipolar, but I have autism too, and mostly it's been a positive thing in my life, rather than a 'disorder'. Moreover, since I'm of the opinion that all disabled people should be exterminated, I would not consider it a disability because the extermination of all autistic people would mean a MAJOR decrease in IQ and creativity in the human species.
Dyscalculia is another thing. It's basically my reason for not wanting kids.
I tried to send you a private message but the pop-up box said I had to add you as a friend first. Please accept my request if you don't mind. My son is autistic and I would be extremely grateful for any insight that you could give me. Thanks! Steph :)
Accepted. I'm still figuring out this system, lol. Ask me anything, but keep in mind that autistics are not all alike. :)
All disabled people should be exterminated? I wonder what the disabled ever did to you. Just curious. Not a rhetorical question.
I don't want kids because I hate kids, but if I didn't, and I wanted kids, I'd try my utmost to be ready in the event my kid was born or became disabled.
You havn't spent much time in institutions where perfect strangers take care of handicaped people of all sorts, all ages, because "their loving family" no longer want to take care of them. I don't think any of us here are talking about fully socially functional disabled people. We're talking about disabled people who can not fend for themselves. In British Columbia there have been cuts to some of these institutions and 1000s of non-functioning people were left to wander the streets, homeless, because they can not fend for themselves.
So that cry of "I'll protect all the little disabled children" is akin to people who buy chicks/puppies/kittens as xmas gifts, and these animals, when their cute little baby charm wears off, end up at the pound, unloved, and dead.
So let's stick to bringing up children who have a chance at an autonomous life.
They would not. And it wouldn't hurt the child either, if done the right way.
And TAA is right.