I remember many things of being a young theist child. Some of these things are nice memories, others are not nice, and some I thought were nice at the time.
One of the memories that falls into the latter is my Chronic Guilt as a young Christian. I am a psychology undergraduate major, and I made up the term "Chronic Guilt Disorder" [You will not find it in any medical or psychiatric dictionary] to define a phenomena quite common among religious people, but especially prevalent and severe among Christians. Although, among Christians, the length they will go to make up for their Chronic Guilt, which in turn will often lead to an inferiority complex, varies in extremity.
With Easter coming up in just 2 days, I thought the timing for writing this blog post was perfect. Easter is a "holiday" which symbolizes the PINNACLE of Christian Chronic Guilt Disorder. In fact, the whole holiday is based on the idea that God was killed by a sinful world to take away their sins. And that because of God's perfection, no one is worthy of this salvation.
As a christian child I believed that I was an unworthy human being, a guilty evil sinner who deserved to be punished. In fact, unbeknownst to my parents, I would practice a mild form of self-injury [A REAL DOCUMENTED PSYCHOLOGICAL DISORDER, more commonly known as "cutting yourself"] as a way to show my repentance to Jesus, and I always did it around Easter. The self-injury was light, I would merely scratch myself or pick at scabs, just to induce slight pain. Then I would feel "cleansed of sin." I look back now as an atheist and shake my head at the insanity of this. I was only a child, but I was already practicing self-destructive habits in the name of God!
However, my "scratching for Christ" is really only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to religious self-destructive behaviors due to Chronic Guilt Disorder.
In fact, it seems that not only does religion create self-destructive behaviors and attitudes, it PURPOSELY attempts to force them upon it's followers by using the weapon of SIN. In a VERY well done attack on the evils perpetuated by Christianity, George H. Smith hits this issue on the nail when he writes,
"The notion of the sin is perhaps the most effective sanction ever invented. For a Christian, to sin is the worst thing imaginable, and the thought of committing a sin can cause intense guilt. [...] Sin represents something metaphysically monstrous, something that directly undercuts a man's [or woman's] sense of self-esteem, and this adds to its effectiveness as a manipulative device." - p. 301 of "Atheism: The Case Agains God" - By George H. Smith.
I remember that as a Christian child I would feel horribly guilty for things that were completely out of porportion to the amount of guilt that should be displayed. When I would lie or backsass my parents one day, on Sunday in church, I would be silently crying and begging God for forgiveness, terrified of God's wrath.
You see... fear IS a powerful weapon of Christendom, but GUILT is MUCH MORE potent of a weapon!! If you can make someone believe they are worthless, you can break them.
As I said, though, the examples of religious self-destruction go far beyond "scratching yourself." People harm their bodies and their psyches in the name of repentence to God. Sometimes they do very serious harm.
Although severe physical self-punishment was far more common in past centuries, it remains today! The bible gives us GREAT role models as to how to act when God is "angry with you." Over and over it speaks of the people weeping and tearing their hair and putting on "sack cloth."
In the middle ages, a priest who wished to get on God's good side wore a "hair shirt" for a great portion of his life without ever taking it off. A hair shirt is a very uncomfortable and unsanitary garment made entirely of human hair.
When lice infested his hair shirt, you would have thought he would have taken it off, right? WRONG!! He took his suffering from the parasites to be an even greater way to show repentence to God. So he tortured himself for years wearing a dirty, uncomfortable, unsanitary, and infested garment to be "good for God." [What kind of insane god would sanction that?!]
Think extreme forms of self-punishment for God exist only in the past? You're wrong!
In some modern Christian sects it is common to go through the EXCRUCIATING practice of LITERALLY reinacting the crucifiction on a LIVING person!! The person who is the "crucified" is revered for his/ her "piousness." This picture is from the Phillipines and is typical of such practices.
More common forms of Self-Punishment are, Fasting, Self-Mutilation or Self Beating, and the Self-Deprivation practices common during Lent among Catholics. ["What are you going to give up for Lent?"]
These may be seen on first glance as harmless, but they are not. The main problem with the self-deprivation practice of Lent, is that it causes emotional distress and temptation and possibly depression among those who fail to hold to their "vows." You may object that it is no worse than dieting. However, dieting is done out of medical NECESSITY!! Dieting has a progressive PURPOSE!! It is not simply about deprivation!! Dieting is about changing your lifestyle and becoming a healthy person! And, dieting should ALWAYS be done only under the supervision of a medical doctor!
Which brings us to the next "supposedly harmless" practice - Fasting. Fasting is the practice [for religious or other reasons] of depriving yourself of food for a certain amount of time [usually only a day]. In moderation, fasting CAN be harmless. However, if taken to an extreme, fasting is DANGEROUS!! Since a person is depriving themselves of all food, if fasting is done for more than a day, it becomes purposeful starvation. If you fast for more time than your doctor would recommend, you are risking PERMANENT damage to your body and your overall physical health!! Depriving yourself of food will wreck havoc with your electrolytes, essential chemicals in your blood that regulate hydration, and are critical for nerve and muscle function. You will set your blood sugar out of wack, causing weakness, nausea and fatigue. Prolonged deprivation [when your body goes into starvation mode] will cause your body to start [literally] EATING ITSELF!! Your body will attempt to keep you alive by first absorbing your muscles, and then absorbing your fats. Then your vital organs will start to shut down. [But if you get to that point, the point at which death can happen, you're a dumbass because you had more than enough time to save yourself from your PURPOSEFUL starvation]. You see, you may see it as a religious practice, but your body doesn't see that. It just sees you as starving and will act exactly as it does when you are starving of other causes.
Self- Beating - In the time of the Black Death, a group of zealot Christians [who were scorned by the organized church] would go from town to town in ragged clothing, beating themselves unmercifully with whips and sticks to try to get God to lift the plague from the "good Christian people." They were called, the Flagellants. Even today some christians practice this archaic abuse on themselves! An Image of Flagellant actors in a film about the Black Death:
Although all of this seems horrible... perhaps what is more horrible is the effect of EMOTIONAL self-punishment! What I mean by that is that Chronic Guilt [which is characterized by guilt that far exceeds the level of the crime or guilt without a crime] does emotional damage.
A person who believes that they constantly commit evil acts, will come to believe that they ARE evil, and [in the minds of any good person] thus they are worthless.
In this case the bully that lowers the victim's self-esteem, is not a person, but a poisonous ideology which is [in essense] a never-ending guilt trip.
That is such an awful, horrible experience! It makes me want to beat someone on your behalf, but I'm not even sure who!
It's interesting, though, that you finally thought "fuck it"... because I had a feeling a guy I knew had that same attitude even though he believed all the horse-shit in the Bible, too. It seemed he decided it wasn't worth it to try to be a good person if he was going to end up in Hell anyway, and I understand how someone would come to that conclusion. It was sad to watch him remain shackled to a belief system but without the hope of going to Heaven. It's really quite disgusting that religion can still have control over a person even when they've given up on that religion! And it's even more sad that a person thinks doing good is not worth it without an eternal reward.
Anyway... I hope you do come out of your depression. How old are you? As someone who was really, really shy and suffered from social anxiety and also depression, it does get better as you get older as long as you face your problems head-on. Learn to LIKE yourself! Let yourself believe you're valuable... because you are. :)
I'm so sorry that happened to you Caitlin! That's why I'm glad my parents were [and are] too poor to send me to a religious school. You had probably the worst case of religion-induced chronic guilt disorder I have ever heard. NO ONE should be subjected to feeling guilt for the infidelity or the fornication of their parents! One of my best friends was the result of a married man's affair with her single [still single] mother. It's not her fault that she was concieved out of wedlock, and neither is it yours. And besides... fornication is a sin only for Christians. Having sex out of wedlock is a personal choice and no one has the right to infringe on it.... but especially! No one has the right to make a "love child" like you feel guilty for something harmless that happened before you were born!! That's evil! That's sick!
You have won your battle though! Since you are free you can begin to repair all the damage that the toxic nightmare called "Christianity" has done to you.
I have bipolar disorder, which means I go through periods of deep [almost suicidal] depression. When you start feeling that way... turn your feelings around! GET ANGRY!!
I'm a psychology major and I know that anger has been portrayed as a "bad thing" [especially for women], but the truth is... a little anger is actually healthy! People who feel too happy and too safe become soft and uninterested in the civil liberties of others. Throughout history what has always inspired change for the better is a healthy dose of righteous anger. AND allowing yourself to feel angry at those who attempted to destroy you will be therapeutic to you.
I have definitely benefitted from working out my own feelings about my childhood indoctrination. Some of those feelings were resentment toward my parents and my church for betraying me in such a way.
HOWEVER! Don't hang onto anger forever! Work your feelings through and then move on. The world is bright here on the other side of the "god delusion" wall. Atheists will usually find the ability to accept death and aloneness... and once that happens the world opens up as a place of wonder, beauty, and opportunity. This is a world that one cannot fully see through the distorted lenses of a toxic delusion like religion.
I remember asking Jesus to "come in to my heart" every single night because I was afraid I hadn't done it right before, and the fear of going to hell was so real for me. I also cut myself on a regular basis from the age of 12 up until a few years ago. I don't think at the time I even realized that my cutting was from guilt and that the guilt was from my religion. I always felt drenched in guilt as a child. I also attempted suicide a couple of times; once seriously.
*BUT* I didn't come here to share a sob story. I just wanted to say that this post was great and that I wish I could show it to every religious person in the world. How sad that people base their lives on something blindly - completely without question - just because of fear. I'm so incredibly glad that I "got out" when I did.