My guess is that this has been covered in another forum but I wanted to throw it out there;
So who among us has been the following situation: You are sitting at a friends or even a family's dinner table and everyone gets ready to say grace. Everyone bows their heads and or closes their eyes. What do you do? Do you close your eyes and or bow your head out of respect and think to yourself "omg this is such bs", or do you hold your atheist head up high with a kind of "suck-it" mentality I am not going to coddle you just because you expect me to, I'm an atheist dammit and proud of it!!!
Would love to hear your thoughts and stories!!
Attended a wedding reception last night, and there was a blessing spoken by a family member of the bride right before dinner. During this invocation I glanced about the room (I don't bow my head, but I respectfully keep my mouth shut and remain silent, it's just good manners) and noticed that there were several people not bowing their heads or even hiding the fact they weren't praying. A very large percentage to my surprise (and happiness) as a matter of fact. This was an almost exclusively caucasian non-Jewish group of people, so what I can only take away from this is that there are many more atheists in the world than we likely know.
Everyone I know -- knows my beliefs. If holding hands is part of their saying grace tradition I do that and even say "thank you" as everyone else says "amen." I went to a funeral for my father-in-law some years ago and communion was part of the ritual -- so when everyone else went to get their cracker and wine I just sat there.
The church was full. I didn't get so much as a snide look. No problem. Respecting my beliefs is essential to me and thus I must respect theirs.
Because I have rights. they have to respect for what I am and I will respect them for their beliefs.
No, I will not do it. I will just hold my head up high.
I am fortunate that my closest friends, oddly most of them are very religious, respect that I do not have the same beliefs they do and do not expect me to participate in grace or other prayers. They usually will do a quick grace to themsleves if they feel the need for a pre-meal prayer.
Or, if you come out of the closet and your family does not accept you
You will burn in Hell
You will burn in Hell
[insert name] will burn in Hell
Till the end of days
...Not that it really happened